Cody's Mind

Fitness Blog

2011-09-26T07:19:00.002+05:30

I just started writing lot of fitness post lately on this blog. I realized its very off - topic and decided to move it to another blog - http://fitcody.blogspot.com
Please check it out and give me your feedback.

Believe in yourself

2011-09-23T08:59:00.000+05:30

Believe in yourself - standing for what you believe in regardless of the odds against you and the pressure that tears at your resistance means courage. Keeping a smile on your face when inside you feel like dying for the sake of supporting others means courage. Stopping at nothing and doing what in heart means determination.Holding your head high and being the best you know you can be when life seems to fall apart at your feet and facing each difficulty with the confidence that time will bring u better tomorrow and never giving up means believing in yourself

Summer guide for extreme weight loss

2011-07-27T12:12:00.001+05:30

My results:

I lost about 26 kg (57 lbs) total and about 16 kg (35 lbs) from February 15. I also went from (28% body fat to Single digit body fat percentage) in just about 3 months. I achieved following with zero knowledge of ingredients in my food. I don’t know how to cook and I have to eat out all the time. To further etch my troubles I am a vegetarian (don’t eat eggs either). This seriously created elongated search for food that I can consume that can provide me sufficient amount of controlled protein.

I didn’t work out at all for one and half month due to outside temperature being above 42 C (105 F). I didn’t have access to any air conditioning or even controlled bath temperature. Due to lack of control on external temperature, I avoided workouts as they created skin tearing and excessive sweating that lead to dehydration. Workouts are meant to improve your fitness not decrease it. I would shower in whatever the temperature of water was. I just showered late in night or early mornings so that I could shower in water temperature that I enjoyed.

Advice I took in account:

Cut down gluten and dairy.
Drink cold water only.
Don’t eat anything white in color except cottage cheese that has high amount of casein.
Take supplements
Whey proteins shake as soon as you wake up.
No fruits
Cheat day on Sunday (there is zero limit to it)

My Experiments:

Cheat Day:

Earlier I found myself consuming too much liquid only calories on cheat days. I didn’t have enough energy to last throughout the week. So I decided to allow any sort of drinking calories on Saturday and eat solids on Sunday. After I lost enough weight, I experimented with idea of cheat weekends where I would binge throughout weekends. I personally found binging alternate weekends most fruitful.

1^st week – Cheat day only on Sunday

2^nd week – Saturday and Sunday

3^rd week – Only Sunday

4^th week – Saturday and Sunday

This has been most fruitful for me. Moreover, on 1^st and 3^rd week I would consume last meal on Saturday and 1^st meal on Sunday were at least about 16 hours apart.

Post - Workout:

I started working out with Beachbody Insanity DVD program after external temperature reached acceptable level. I have habit of working out earlier in the day that is before I go to office. Insanity is such a demanding program that you feel drained out in your office and you can’t give your 100% to work,

I started trying foods that provided me complete recovery after workout. I didn’t want to spend extra money on supplements. I wanted something that would fill my stomach. I always found myself extremely hungry after the workouts. I found sugarcane juice (mixed with mint and ginger) to be most promising post workout. I felt absolutely no tiredness after 30 minutes of consuming sugarcane juice. I believe this is the best natural recovery drink

After sugarcane season was over, I wanted to find something that could provide me with same results. So far combination of Acai berry shot of 30 ml (mixed with pomegranate, blueberry and raspberry) and coconut water (with coconut cream), provided good results. It wasn’t as good as sugarcane though. I figured consuming a bite of jaggery along with it. I feel completely invigorated after consuming these foods.

Temperature Moderation:

I didn’t have access to Air Conditioning in such high temperatures that I was forced to find alternatives that would provide me refreshing sleep. I figured putting my shawl in deep freezer through the day and bought an ice pack that was kept around my cushion. I was able to get very fine sleep with such setting.

DVD workout:

When you live in a small town/city, it can be very arduous task finding a quality fitness instructor who can provide you those results you desire. There are very few instructors who know how body works and even though they know how it works, they aren’t updated with latest techniques that can provide maximum results in shortest period of time. It can also cost a fortune to hire a good instructor who can give you what you desire. If you aren’t getting any noticeable result at all in first month, chances are you aren’t doing it right.

For you the best bet is DVD workouts which you can do at your home. There are thousands of DVD programs out there in market that promise you to give your day worth of workout. Different workouts suit different people according to personal dreams. Some people just want to be thin, while other desires to achieve something with their body. Some want to jump longer, run faster, look ripped or even do some serious body building. Deep down core need is to look better than you looked month before. Funny part about your fitness is you are growing older by month and not younger, yet you want to look better than before.

Choosing a good DVD program:

Select a program that gives you time table and schedule in which you will achieve results. There should be lot of variation in the workout where you can train every part of your body. It shouldn’t be just upper body or lower body. Workout should train all your weak spots. Moreover, there should be variation in the workout where you do different workout on different days. Workout should come with a nutrition guide that provides optimal nutrition for program with help of specialist who you can contact. You should be able to talk to Developer Company in case you have any question. Company should have specialist who can answer your queries. Possibly with someone having mastery in sports nutrition

Recap for requirement of good workout DVD:
·        Variation
·        Provide you time table in which you will see results.
·        Train every body part
·        Nutrition guide with contact person to ask queries
·        Message board where you can interact with people who are doing same program as you
·        Should be challenging enough that you feel out of your comfort zone

My personal favorites:

Beachbody Insanity

Beachbody Power 90 and P90x

Tara Stiles 6 week challenge with Toneitup free videos

Beachbody is consistently producing great workout DVDs and hence I signed up as a coach to avail discount on products. There is some business opportunity with them too if you are American citizen. I am not in USA and hence not interested in developing business there.

My supplements:

PAGG stack – Check out Tim Ferriss book 4 hour body for more details.

Creatine Monohyrdate – Consume only if you are doing intense workouts.

Whey Protein – Consume it first thing in the morning irrelevant of you working out or not.

For any other supplement information, just drop me a line, I will tell you about supplements as per your requirements.

Books:

Tim Ferriss - 4 hour body

Tony Horton - Bring it

Beachbody P90x newsletter.

Why do I do what I do? Case: Impromptu Mechanization

2011-05-19T19:13:00.000+05:30

Why do I do what I do? Case: Impromptu Mechanization

It has been roller coaster ride for me. Lately, I haverealized, it is my enigma that creates a communication gap.

There is various way people learn the information. Mymethod is visualization, actions and kinesthetic. If I am unable to understanda concept,

I will have to create a flow map in my head andunderstand how pieces join together. If concepts are too wide and I can't fitthem in a puzzle, I have to physically create actions that create visualizationand a closure. Last and foremostimportant is Kinesthetic. Kinesthetic creates level of connection that isbeyond paradigm of language. It has been found that when a female suffers froma shock, they look for kinesthetic cues (even from a stranger that comfortsthan 30% more than being left alone.

Kinesthetic people find it easier to connect with theworld and solve complex problems by virtualization and mechanization. They tendto create deeper bond with environment, people and themselves. They are moreaware and controlling about their RAS (Reticular Activation System)

Cues

It is easy to consider kinesthetic learner as foolsdue to inability to comprehend basic logic parameters. Kinesthetic people arenot generally not known for being very good Mathematicians as they lack abilityto comprehend something that is not physical.

However on deeper interaction, their ability todissect and comprehend complex information may spell bound many. Furthermore, ifa person is a keen to learn, he will be able to stupefy most ordinary being.With this canny ability they are able to create mystical aura about themselvesthat makes them center of the attention and in most occasion an attractive andinteresting personality. However, if someone is very cynical, then he maycreate tension and unnecessary boredom that may drive people away.

Skills

Most kinesthetic learners are very hyper active andcan learn information when you think they aren't paying any attention to you.It is their capability to multi-task that keeps lot of teachers / trainerconfused and in awe.

Some of the great psycho - analyst have given themnames such as Da Vinci learners or Indigo personalities.

There is cognitive disassociation betweeneffectiveness and defocused. I believe it is not they can’t handle work burden.It is when task at hand seems too uninteresting to them, they lose cognitiverelation with the training or process. They have short attention span whereeither you capture their attention or you may lose them completely for foreseeablefuture until they decide it is essential they get back to it due to externalfactors.

I believe such people should rather have access toself paced material which they require to finish in given time can producefantastic result. The deadlines keep them on toes, else some of them may losethe focus (I understand it is not possible for other humans to make someonefocus however, it is possible to keep them in check by showing them leniencywith boundaries.

Discipline:

Requirements for Pragmatism: (will be covered in upcoming posts )

1. Emotions

2. Mystery

3. Darwinism

4. Touch

Life Is Behavior By Tony Horton

2011-03-17T17:56:00.000+05:30

I've learned from my own experiences (filled with the usual trials and tribulations) that life has stages. These stages can occur in any and all aspects of life—physical, spiritual, psychological, financial, romantic, adventurous, familial, and so on. As you look back at your life (so far), you can see where you've excelled and where you've come up short.

Most people spend their whole lives focusing on only two or three of the abovementioned categories. They neglect other areas of life because of lack of interest or desire or necessity. The truth is that a lot of men and women these days spend a substantial amount of their time working to keep a roof over their heads, food on the table, and money in their pockets. Many homemakers (male and female) spend most of their time keeping the hatches battened down.

So if life feels like an endless episode of Survivor, then how the hell do we focus on what I call the "Bliss Maker" areas of life—the romantic, spiritual/psychological, physical, purposeful, and adventurous areas? The three key ingredients for finding bliss in these areas of life are TIME, ENERGY, and PURPOSE. If you live in a 9-to-5 world and feel overwhelmed, then it's going to be pretty tough to find the TIME, ENERGY, and PURPOSE to discover your true bliss.

The average person can find temporary bliss in food, alcohol, drugs, tall tales, and sex. This kind of short-term bliss will take away health, consciousness, rationality, discretion, accountability, and responsibility, along with distorting values and a sense of morality.

If you're lucky enough to finally discover that there's more to life than making a buck, feeding your face, getting off, and manipulating reality, you'll start to inquire about how to find your bliss. Then you'll have to begin to find the TIME, ENERGY, and PURPOSE.

Time isn't that difficult, really. You look at your schedule, move some stuff around, explain to people what you're doing, and figure out a reasonable TIME frame in which to accomplish your goals. ENERGY is a piece of cake! You can master that every time you decide to Push Play! Doing P90X or any other kind of physical activity will automatically propel you into one of the most important "Bliss Maker" categories. PURPOSE is probably the most difficult and complicated variable when it comes to long-term success and bliss.

Pursuing your bliss by means of dishonesty, manipulation, coercion, or the need to seek self-aggrandizement will backfire worse than any short-term pleasure ever will. If your spiritual pursuits give you a holier-than-thou attitude, all your learned dogma will fall on deaf ears. If you exercise hard and long just to look hot at your high school reunion, then talk to me the next day when the show is over. If you start looking for adventure for the sole purpose of acquiring trophies, will you still enjoy it if you fail?

If you ever chase any of these areas of life for the PURPOSE of looking for attention, accolades, and kudos from others, then you are doomed to a life of confrontation, depression, confusion, illusion, and delusion. I never said pursuing your bliss was easy. That's why most people who try it fail.

You can avoid failure by pursuing your bliss with clarity, wisdom, acceptance, vulnerability, patience, consciousness, and truth. These words, in both the selfish and selfless ilk, represent intent. Your intent is everything and the only thing that matters when it comes to the right use of will.

I believe that real lifelong change and bliss are achieved over the course of three separate stages:

Recognition. Knowing and understanding that there must be a shift in the way you approach certain segments of your life and an undaunted willingness to want to make a change.
Catharsis. The period of time you spend venting, releasing, and unleashing the emotions that keep you from your bliss.
Application. The employment and utilization of the tools you've learned at the cathartic stage.

If you can move through these three stages with the right intentions, then you will know what it's like to live on this earth in a state of bliss.

Peace,
Tony H.

FINISH STRONG IN 2011 by Mike French

2011-01-04T07:00:00.000+05:30

FINISH STRONG...that is my mantra for 2011 & beyond. No matter what I do in my Life, I am going to FINISH STRONG.

How do you FINISH STRONG you might ask? Here is how:

1.) PREPARATION: Hard work with out being prepared is just flailing about. You won't accomplish anything no matter how much you want it. Its like not having the proper supplements because you forgot to buy more. Heading to workout & realizing you don;t have any clean shorts. The preparation for whatever you want to accomplish is where all the hard work is done. My LA Marathon in 2011 is NOTHING compared to all the training runs leading up to it. That is where you set yourself up to be a winner; by preparing.

2.) FOCUS: You need to develop laser like focus on what you want to achieve. Multi-tasking is great but it also take your emphasis off of what you truly NEED to accomplish. Do one thing at a time as well as you possibly can. If you don't, you will be mediocre at everything. Slow down, FOCUS & accomplish your goals, one at a time. Prioritize & focus on what is truly important in accomplishing your goals.

3.) BE REALISTIC: Really take a look at your goals either Fitness or Business. If you are 325 pounds right now, don't expect a six pack in 6 months. If you are an Emerald Team Beachbody Coach, don't expect to be a 5 Star Diamond by years end. Things take TIME, no matter how hard you work. Patience is a virtue, exercise it to stay realistic, positive, & moving FORWARD.

4.) WORK HARD: There is no substitute for HARD WORK. Let me say it again, there is no substitute for HARD WORK. Successful people, unless you are Paris Hilton, actually busted their butt to achieve success in their Life. You need to grind it out. Dig in & see what you are made of. If you think you are working hard, take a look at people that you want to emulate. Watch how hard they work for their Business or Fitness success. 1/2 effort = 1/2 results. If you are doing P90X, TurboFire, & a 5 run in the same day, you are not working hard on ANYof it. Sorry if this is a kick in the face for you, but its the truth.

5.) DEVELOP AN ADAMANTIUM POSITIVE MINDSET: Don't let negative comments, people or thoughts take root in your mind at any time. Negativity is POISON for your motivation, discipline, relationships, Fitness, & Business. Jealousy is even worse. There is nothing more pathetic than someone who allows the jealousy monster climb on their back. They complain about how this person is successful because they "get all the breaks". Yet they won't take one step forward to improve their own situation. Don't be that person. Don't allow that sickening feeling take you over & waste your time. Nothing but POSITIVE VIBESin 2011!

6.) BE LEGITIMATE: Don't try & be someone who you are not. Some people talk a good game & then don't back up their actions. Be true to yourself & the people that love you. Deception is evil & it will catch up with you eventually. You can only pull the wool over people's eyes for so long. Eventually they will realize what you are doing & then you will lose all respect, not only for yourself, but from other people. That is no way to live. Don't be that person that is ALWAYS looking for SHORTCUTS or to circumvent the system. Being praised for an accomplishment that you achieved in a "shady" way is a lie. Put in real effort, when you deal with people, speak from your heart. People will know the difference, believe me. When people see who you truly are, some people will like you & some won't. That is Life. At least you will be able to sleep soundly at night knowing that you are beingYOU.

7.) REST IS IMPORTANT: You can only burn the candle at both ends for so long before it catches up with you. You can't do double workouts 6 days a week for weeks on end. You will end up hurt, count on it. There is NOTHING wrong with taking an extra rest day if you truly need it. Make sure you get the sleep that you need to be mentally clear & recover from your workout schedule. Take some time off. Relax your mind & recharge your batteries. Obsessing about your Fitness or Business will lead to burn out. You don't want that. When you burn out is when negativity can rear its ugly head. Get your rest.

8.) FINISH STRONG: Simply put, FINISH STRONG in everything that you do in 2011. Use all of the tools above to propel yourself to where you want to be in your Life. FINISHING STRONG is a mindset. You are telling yourself every second of every day that you can take more, do more, & accomplish more. That is why after my 12 mile run yesterday, I did 25 jumping jacks & 25 push ups. That is why after I complete the 2011 LA Marathon I will cross the finish line & do 25 jumping jacks & 25 push ups. Realize that no matter how hard you work, you still have gas left in your tank. If you are taking in oxygen, you can do MORE!

FINISH STRONG in 2011. Why? Because there is no other way to really LIVE!

God Bless,

Mike

For More articles from Mike :http://mikefrench668.blogspot.com/

Lazarus Guide to Break up - Without Getting your things broken

2010-12-23T20:04:00.002+05:30

This is a guide for those who love their cars, electronics and all that and don't like them broken or in tatters because its cool to be Jerk. Get your break up without it being your FAULT or spoiling her for other men. She is just not for you. If you are reading this, you know want to break up and not have drama over it.

1. Seek compliments, Push for it.
2. She is always the one to blame. She didn't do anything worth blame? Find something to blame her for.
3. Call her at random times, and then say nothing, then call her out on being awkward. Why is she being so quiet?
4. You got something that she feels guilty about, Call her out on it. Remember its JERK Times!
5. Be a natural JERK. Don't put on JERK vibe.
6. Make - UPs any slips - Punish it.

Eg. She has put on extra Blush - Show her pic of Ape with red face. She will get it!

And yes she looks fat in that tight pants

7. Public Spanking is acceptable.
8. Act overtly Presumptious. You know thats not what she means but just put it and let her contradict it and then say "Its not working, you always seeking fights"

Warning:
Dating an actress / model? when she talks suicides, She means it. Just be careful!IF they are healthy they won't talk about it. If they do, they MEAN IT!

Want Open slippage card:
1. While breaking up, Hey you are nice. Lets remain friends and be in touch.

P.S Just a fun post. Will update more Later!

Two and Half men awesome one liners

2010-12-09T17:26:00.001+05:30

Mannnnnnnnn!
You got it!
You know better next time!
It's Okay to be straight!
I understand!
Yes! Where was I?
There is no reason for name calling.
Do not ask ques when u dont know the ans
boy, i hope so
Oh, That amuses me
y wuld u go thr
Oh God! What have I done?
Try and stop me
Damn! its too late. you are already infected. I might have to se you on fire
its fine - Hitler said same thing to Poland
there, Was that so hard?

Quest for Excellence

2010-12-09T17:26:00.000+05:30

A QUEST FOR EXCELLENCE Success is often measured by comparison to others. Excellence, on the other hand, is all about being the best we can be and maximizing our gifts, talents and abilities to perform at our highest potential. We live in a world that loves to focus on success and loves to compare. We are all guilty of doing this. However, I believe that to be our best we must focus more on excellence and less on success. We must focus on being the best we can be and realize that our greatest competition is not someone else but ourselves.

For example, coaching legend John Wooden often wouldn’t tell his players who they were playing each game. He felt that knowing the competition was irrelevant. He believed that if his team played to the best of their ability they would be happy with the outcome. In fact, John Wooden never focused on winning. He had his team focus on teamwork, mastering the fundamentals, daily improvement and the process that excellence requires. As a result he and his teams won A LOT. A focus on excellence was also the key for golfing legend Jack Nicklaus. His secret was to play the course not the competition. He simply focused on playing the best he could play against the course he was playing. While others were

competing against Jack, he was competing against the course and himself.

The same can be said for Apple’s approach with the iPod, iPhone and iPad. When they created these products they didn’t focus on the competition. Instead they focused on creating the best product they could create. As a result, rather than measuring themselves against others they have become the measuring stick. We have a choice as individuals, organizations and teams. We can focus on success and spend our life looking around to see how our competition is doing, or we can look straight ahead towards the vision of greatness we have for ourselves and our teams. We can look at competition as the standard or as an indicator of our progress towards our own standards. We can chase success or we can embark on a quest for excellence and focus 100% of our energy to become our best... and let success find us. Ironically, when our goal is excellence the outcome and byproduct is often success.

Holding On And Letting Go

2010-12-07T15:03:00.001+05:30

Look at your life and ask why you're holding on to things that don't make your life better. Now ask yourself if you have the strength to let go of these things. I see in my own life how I keep things around that no longer serve me. Even simple things like the clutter of paper and old useless junk in drawers, closets and on shelves. It's hard to abandon safe, old, familiar objects, philosophies and people in our lives. This would require letting go of the things that make up who you are; even if who you are isn't who you want to be. Most of us are two people at once. The person living in this moment and the person planning, rehearsing and preparing for the future. The person that was, is dead. No need for discussion about that person here. You have right now and the days, weeks, months and years (if you're lucky) in front of you. The person you are right now often becomes unhappy when the plan for the future doesn't come to fruition.

Quite often our hopes and dreams are dashed because we couldn't let go of the things that are holding us back. There are two things that make change hard. Letting go of familiar and safe behaviors (that don't work) and adapting (sticking with) new unfamiliar more difficult activities to create change and a better life. You can't hold on and let go at the same time. You can't do P90X and eat junk food. You can't workout in the morning and get drunk after work. Tip-toeing your way to dramatic change can work for some people but my belief is that sometimes you need to clean house completely to prepare yourself for life altering, long term change. This doesn't mean you still can't take small steps when it comes to letting go. I'm not promoting that a 350 lbs person with no fitness background jump into P90X. I am saying that a person like that needs to STOP doing nothing and start finding fit people to hang out with and talk to. If you went around your house right now and threw out and gave away all the crap that's been sitting in your house for years, you'd feel phenomenal.

Letting go of the junk you've been holding on to requires finding a more powerful replacement. In your heart you need to trust that the simple act of releasing tired old worthless behaviors is going to bring about a better life. Why is it that when 100 people all get the same life altering information, only a small percentage of those people run with it? It's because the majority of those people can't let go of the people and belief systems that keep them right where they are. Life is frightfully short and I'd hate to see anyone miss out on the incredible opportunities available to all of us. We're all capable. We're all deserving. After reading this write down all the things in your life that aren't working. Then make a list of the things you plan on doing to make your life better. Is it a letter, an e-mail, a phone call or another TO-DO list? Be proactive not inactive! Let go and get going.
- Tony Horton

Be Part of the solution

2010-11-29T09:02:00.001+05:30

Boys and girls,

I'm unaware of your financial situation but I do believe that you're reading this page because you care about your health and fitness. If you have plenty of income and love your job then what I’m about to tell you might not be for you. If you're not thrilled with the way you make a living, would like extra income, love Beachbody products, like the way they make you look and feel, enjoy helping other people feel and look better, enjoy setting your own hours, get excited about being the captain of your own ship as opposed to working for the man - then listen up.

The reality is, your health and fitness moves beyond you. It impacts the people around you. You (whether you like it or not) have the power to change lives based solely on your own personal transformation. Inadvertently you become a catalyst for change. This is how I got started. I was clueless, asked a few questions based on my need to be strong and healthy, stayed with it and people in my life wanted to know what I was doing. Simple yet powerful.

If you want to share what you've learned with people in your life who want better health (and could use extra income in the process) then you should consider becoming a Team Beachbody Coach. I felt so strongly about this program that I’ve encouraged many of my friends to become coaches, even my own sister. She is doing great (even though my contract with Beachbody won’t let me help her). She is a perfect example of someone who had plenty of doubt and hesitation regarding the coaching opportunity and still found a way to make it work for her. A busy working wife and mother with three very active kids doesn't sound like a good candidate to start an in-home multi-level marketing company. Did you say multi level marketing? What? Ick! You mean pyramid scheme right? Okay chill out. All these fears would be true if BeachBody were selling hats or kitty liter, but this is Beachbody people! The number 1 in-home fitness company on the planet! P90X is steadily becoming the most popular fitness system in US history. Shakeology is the revolutionary replacement meal on the market today. We sell life-altering change - not soap. Tens of thousands of regular folk around this country are doing something they love because of this coach opportunity.

The unemployment rate still hovers around 10% but it doesn't have to be that way if more people were willing to see that new opportunities exist all around them. The Team Beachbody Coaching opportunity is one of them. Health care companies, pharmaceutical companies and our government are not capable of solving this obesity crisis and we can't wait around for them to do it. The crisis is now and the answer is YOU! I know that sounds a bit Rah Rah but it's true.

Cynics don't need to apply, but if you're sick and tired of the status quo and want to make a difference in your own life and in the lives of those around you, then open the door. The two major issues of our time - the health care issue and unemployment rate could be resolved if a million more people in this country decided to get healthy and share the wealth. This is a brand new industry waiting to explode. It's not happening in boardrooms or factories – it’s happening in the homes of tens of thousands of Team Beachbody Coaches and in the homes of their customers. With a tiny investment (actually the company is waiving the enrollment fee through the end of 2010) and a willingness to help people the sky's the limit.

Tony Horton-

Meaning of Failure

2010-11-24T14:00:00.002+05:30

What does Failure mean....?
Failure doesn't mean - You are a failure,
It means - You have not succeeded.

     Failure doesn't mean - You accomplished nothing,
     It means - You have learned something.

     Failure doesn't mean - That you have been a fool.
     It means - You had a lot of faith.

     Failure doesn't mean - You've been disgraced.
     It means - You were willing to try.

     Failure doesn't mean - You don't have it.
     It means - You have to do something in a different way.

     Failure doesn't mean - You are inferior.
     It means -You are not perfect.

     Failure doesn't mean - You've wasted your life.
     It means - You have a reason to start afresh.

     Failure doesn't mean - You should give up.,
     It means - You must try harder.

     Failure doesn't mean -You'll never make it.,
     It means - It will take a little longer.

     Failure doesn't mean - God has abandoned you.,
     It means - God has a better way for you.

Beachbody tips - Slim Fat Skim

2010-11-23T08:55:00.002+05:30

Dietary fat is not the same as body fat, and although it might seem like that candy bar goes straight to your hips, things just don’t work that way. Fat is a vital part of your diet, helping to transport vitamins, maintain the health of skin and hair, and create enzymes and sex hormones in the body. Trans fats and saturated fats work negatively in the body, elevating cholesterol and clogging your arteries. These are found in a lot of fast-food items and "solid" fat products such as margarine and butter. Unsaturated fats, on the other hand, have been shown to reduce harmful cholesterol and work positively in the body to increase energy and give your skin, hair, and eyes that "hi-pro glow." These fats are found in nuts, olive oil, flaxseeds, peanut butter, and lean meats. But remember that a little fat goes a long way—each gram of dietary fat contains 9 calories!

TIP: Coconut oil is a remarkable fat-- a significant source of lauric acid (enhances brain function & immune system).

Dexter - TAKE IT!

2010-11-15T13:37:00.001+05:30

I loved the recent dialogue in Dexter (TV Series), Thought I would post it here.

We are born as tribals
conceived with impulse to fight for what we desire
it is written in our genes
it is engraved in our souls
we traded stones for pavement
trees with skyscrapers
we lost touch with our instincts, what we are
we have lost bond with nature's grace
But we shall be delivered
Time to tap in to our primal selves and seize the power of instincts
we going to remove our shackles,
give up job we hate, people we don't love
live a life worth living
WE ARE GOING TO TAKE IT!

Power of risk - TAKE IT!
power of desire - TAKE IT!
power of instinct- TAKE IT!

If I find a video link I will upload it.

Journey and next stage

2010-11-10T10:04:00.004+05:30

I am a Geek who loves sitting on computer(s) and use gadgets. I was always a pretty healthy person. However, a castigating injury and opulent lifestyle led me to become FAT. I still was thinnest and fittest among my family.

I gained weight and I had no clue what to do about it. I loved eating junk food such as Chocolates, Pizza, Burger, Hot dogs, Pasta, Cheesed Nachos, Ice cream. . I loved drinking soft drinks (could finish up 2 litres at a time).

I reached 100 KG. People started calling me Fatty and would introduce me as the fat guy. I was one of the fattest students in my college. That’s the day I decided to start losing weight. I tried everything out. Gym membership with personal coach (I would lose weight and then gain again.) I decided to take extreme measures [Surviving on just water for 8 days straight] and even got some results. I believe there is barely anything I haven't tried- Walking 12 Kms every day; high paced 1 hour workout till body couldn't handle anymore; cardio, weight training etc

Results: Toned down but unhealthy body. Kidney pain, digestion problems, stretch marks and of course hurting joints all the time for no reason at all. I thought it was "No pain No gain!"

I lost about 25 kg over 2 and half years, lost just 5 inch on waist. Body looks like lump. Even when I was under my BMI, I didn't feel good. My cousins started talking about how fit I looked, I felt like they were making fun of me. Every time they spoke about my size, I felt they were pulling my leg. I just want to remove those problem areas.

One of my friends gifted me Beach body program (2 years ago). I thought I don't require it as I was already doing 2 to 4 hours work out a day, own a gym membership at best gyms, read every book and health magazine about getting 6 pack abs. ( I couldn't be more wrong). Finally after 2 years, I am pursuing my forsaken goals of getting ripped body.

I have gained 6 Kg again from sedentary and am ready for doing whatever it takes to get ripped. For now Beach body products seems last resort. Let the journey begin. I have it in me to accomplish what I desire and if I can accomplish this, I believe it will help every aspect of my life where I don’t feel confident.

Starting with Power 90 program.

Top 3 reasons I am doing this and should keep me motivated:

1. I made promise to myself and people around me. I just won’t be able to handle humiliation if I don’t achieve my goals.

2. I have read so much and understand body so deep (I should be able to show my results with “Right Body” than just talking about what to do. If I want to help other achieve fitness, I should be at my best.

3. I shouldn’t feel I don’t deserve best women just because I am not in my best shape. Once you have the best shape, other things should take care of itself. "Just let yourself be you and self with come through."

Power Surge: The Hidden Benefits of Exercise

2010-11-10T10:03:00.000+05:30

Exercise does your body good almost instantly, research shows. Here's mega motivation to get slimmer, stronger, healthier -- fast!
By Alyssa Shaffer

Instant Benefits of Exercise

We've got some happy news that will rev up your workout routine: The moment you head out on your run, launch into your Spinning class, or start your Pilates session, the benefits of exercise kick in. "We see changes in the body within seconds," says FITNESS advisory board member Michele Olson, PhD, professor of exercise physiology at Auburn University at Montgomery in Alabama. Your heart rate increases, and blood is delivered to your muscles. You start burning calories for fuel. And you get an almost immediate mood boost.

As little as 30 minutes of cardio three to five days a week will add six years to your life, according to research at the Cooper Clinic in Dallas. Do that plus a couple of days of resistance training and you'll not only live longer but also look younger, feel happier, have more energy, and stay slim. Ready for some inspiration for getting your move on? Keep reading for our timeline on the quick and long-lasting benefits of regular exercise.

As You Work Out...

Your lungs are getting stronger. When you do cardio, your brain sends signals to them to help you breathe faster and deeper, delivering extra oxygen to your muscles.

Your motivation is at its peak. Thanks to a flood of endorphins, which trigger the classic runner's high, you feel psyched and energized.

You're fighting flab. "During typical cardio exercise, your body taps mainly fat for fuel," Olson says.

FIT TIP: Push yourself to go harder. The more intensely you do aerobic activity and the longer you do it, the more efficiently your body uses oxygen, and this boosts its fat-blasting power throughout your workout, Olson says.

Within One Hour of Exercise...

You're protecting yourself against colds, flu, you name it. Exercise elevates your level of immunoglobulins, which are proteins that help bolster your immune system and ward off infection. "Every sweat session you do can help strengthen your immune function for about 24 hours," says Cedric Bryant, PhD, chief science officer for the American Council on Exercise.

You're feeling zen. Mood-enhancing chemicals, like serotonin, dopamine, and norepinephrine, flood your brain for a couple of hours post-exercise and for up to a day if you've competed in an endurance event, like a marathon. Stress? What stress?

FIT TIP: Do intervals, on the elliptical or the treadmill or while running outdoors, and you may feel even happier. Women who did interval training in a recent study by Olson had a bigger boost in mood immediately following their workout than those who worked out at a steady pace.

You're blasting calories, even at rest. "For every 100 calories you burn during your workout, you can expect to burn 15 calories after," Bryant says. If you went on a three-mile run, you would torch about 300 calories, which could mean zapping an extra 45 later.

FIT TIP: To turbo-charge your calorie-incinerating quotient, strength-train at least twice a week. It will charge your metabolism so that you'll continue to burn calories for up to 38 hours, according to a study from Ohio University in Athens.

You're hungry. Now that you've burned through your energy stores, your blood sugar levels are dropping. Just how low they go depends on how much you ate or drank before your workout and how long and intensely you exercised, says Kristine Clark, PhD, RD, director of sports nutrition at Pennsylvania State University in University Park.

FIT TIP: If you exercised on an empty or almost-empty stomach, you're probably feeling light-headed or even nauseated or headachy. Your immediate food fix: A high-carb nosh, like a banana or half a bagel, will refuel you and kick-start your recovery. And don't forget to drink plenty of water with your snack. Intense or long workouts can leave you dehydrated.

7 Amazing Success Lessons from Thomas Edison

2010-10-20T12:53:00.002+05:30

Thomas Edison was a very successful inventor, scientist, and businessman whose inventions significantly impacted the world. Inventions such as the phonograph, the motion picture camera, and a long-lasting everyday electric light bulb were all the result of Edison’s work.

Called "The Wizard of Menlo Park" by a newspaper reporter, he was one of the first inventors to mass produce his inventions and is therefore often given credit for creating the first industrial research laboratory.

Edison is considered one of the most prolific inventors in history, holding 1,093 U.S. patents in his name, as well as many patents in the United Kingdom, France, and Germany.

Today I want to talk about seven amazing lessons we can learn from “The Wizard of Menlo Park.”

7 Amazing Success Lessons from Thomas Edison:

Impossibility
“Nearly every man who develops an idea works it up to the point where it looks impossible, and then he gets discouraged. That's not the place to become discouraged."

Roadblocks are sign-posts letting you know that success is just around the corner. Roadblocks are there to keep the uncommitted out. Roadblocks qualify you for success. Don’t get discouraged when things seem impossible, it’s darkest just before dawn.

Perspiration
“Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration.”

Thomas Edison said, “The reason a lot of people do not recognize opportunity is because it goes around wearing overalls and it looks like hard work.” There is no success without hard work; success is something that is only earned after much labor. Success can only come to those who labor for it, it is through labor that you become a valuable person, and your value attracts success.

Capability
“If we did all the things we are capable of, we would literally astound ourselves.”

Most people are living considerably beneath their capabilities. They’ve never focused all of their efforts on a singular task, so they are completely unaware of the power they possess. Everyone is good at something, and if singular focus is given to that talent over the course of years, amazing things will be done. You are capable of astonishing yourself!

Solitude
“The best thinking has been done in solitude.”

I have had my best thoughts locked away in a quiet room. Take time everyday to escape to a quiet room, if only for five minutes, to have your best thoughts. It’s hard to think about achieving the impossible, when you’re surrounded with people wanting to discuss only the possible. Escape to a quiet room today, and begin to see all your possibilities.

Restlessness
“Restlessness is discontent and discontent is the first necessity of progress.”

Thomas Edison said, “Show me a thoroughly satisfied man and I will show you a failure.” As long as you’re perfectly content you can’t make progress. Nothing happens until you become discontented. If you can live with being 30 pounds over weight, if you’re content with that idea (not happy, but content), then you don’t have the power to change it. Remember, "discontent is the first necessity of progress."

Perspective
“I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.”

Perspective is everything! Edison said, “Results! Why, man, I have gotten a lot of results. I know several thousand things that won't work.” That’s the way we should view our life, not as a compilation of failures, but as series of necessary experiments letting us know what doesn’t work. From this perspective, we can move into doing what works, from this perspective we can succeed.

Hard work, Stick-to-itiveness, and Common Sense

“The three great essentials to achieve anything worth while are: Hard work, Stick-to-itiveness, and Common sense.”

Nothing can replace hard work, it’s fundamental to success. If you’re not willing to work hard, you don’t even have a chance at success. No one succeeds and says “That was really easy!”
Additionally, you have to have a no-give-up-attitude; you must be willing to stick to a task that you’re passionate about, and never lose focus. And the final key is "common sense," we all have it, but we all don't use it like we should.

In closing, "you have what it takes to succeed," you have the ability to work hard, to stay focused, and to use common sense, the question is, “Are you going to do it?” I think you are.

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Discovery Sex series Notes

2010-10-14T10:00:00.000+05:30

Ancient discovery Sex and Love

1. Kissing came from Rome:
2. Makeup was first found in Egypt
3. Ziliad - Beauty parlor - Spain - (Invented Wax, hairstyle, toothbrush, Deodorant)
4. Greeks Found shower
5. Perfume was revolutionized in Baghdad
75% of perfume use Rose Oil
Egypitian would put Perfume as cap on thier head
Spartans used Strip bands to apply pefume
Atomizer was Found in 1910 in USA

6. Greek invented the gym
Cicilian liked the dumbles for work out
First Guideline of bodybuilding was also created in Greece

7. First beauty contest was found in Greek mythology.
Hera(wife of zeus), Aprhrodite (God of love) and Athene (God of wisdom). It ended up as bloody war.

8. Guide for Public Sex - India - Kamasutra
Khajuraho temple idol depiction.

9. Lot of Inventions took place to enhance the sex.

a. Mechanical cork - China 8 A.D YANG
B. Clock - Invented in china
Revolutionized in Europe by christians for time of Prayers in 14th century
Thepsizer (Greek) was prostitute around 3000 B.c who would time her client for half and hour with 2 water filled vessels
C. Porn - Greece temples
Babylon show was very popular and got high amount of money which leaded to birth of first bank.
D. Brothel - Rome - 45 organized ones. it was closed from morning to afternoon so that it won't disturb the routine. This also led to first Official protitute register.
E. International Business - First international business was Prostitution.
F. Picture Catalog - Rome (Sex pictures trainting for clients)
G. Coin - Rome ( When on international venture where they didn't know local dialect) They would use coin to depict the activity they wanted to perform and a number which was price code. Kind of new token system.
H. Privacy - Curtains were used in 1800.
Corridords were realized in late 18th century
Key - 2 wooden sticks connected to wire
I. Pheromones- Rome - They used to save sweat of Gladiators and better the gladiator further price it would sell. It was used as face pack.
J. Aphrodite - Greek / Venus - Roman > Used for increasing sex drive
Chinese used Human Urine which would be heated and then allowed to solidify in crystal form. Was used to increase sexual vitality.
k. Sex pill (contraceptions) - Egypt (crocodile dung)
Europe christian (Plants and herbs)
L. Condom - Rome brothel used pipes
Casanova used Sheep testine as condom.

M. Pregnancy test strip - Babylonia - 700 B.c - PH strips that changed the color.

10. 85% cultures on planet weren't Monogamous until late 18th century.

SEX APPEAL

1. Our sexual attraction starts at very young age
2. More attractive the child is :
Chances of popularity as small child increases
Mother spend more time nurturing them.
Are more frequently helped in trouble.

3. Defined by fastest,Size, Strongest and Adaptive.
4. Ancient propoganda of hunting to women is still alive in thier genes. Men who are successful at their career do get better breeding opportunity.
5. It is basically cotesnt in Health, resources and Power.
6. Mating with sexier man would lead to production of Sexier Son which would outshine other women.
7. Men are chasing beauty (deeper sense is the health)
8. Beauty is represented by
- Facial Features
- Hair - Blonde hair is considered most sexy of all hair. After pregnancy, Women hair becomes darker which indicates that she has moved out of her reproductive cycle. Natural blondes are on verge of extinct.
- Fat - Fat in right places of women is always admirable. Esp. Breast. Firm breast are more desired than saggy breast. Waist hip ratio is 70%. That means waist should be 70% for size of hips.
-Symmetrical faces are more attractive. Women faces are more symmetrical when they are ovulating. While guys with symmetrical faces smell better.

9. Women have better sense of commmunication, smell, feeling and touch.

Love Potions

1. Viagra is advanced version of Aphrodisiac
2. Perfume as considered best gender benders.
3. Pubic hair for women are to capture smell of thier vagina.
4. We have 2 seperate sensory in our nose to detect chemicals/smell.
5. Phermones are tasteless,odorless but they still influence our sex drives.If you pass phermones to others, they are affected by your feelings.
6. Women felt safe when sweat of Athelete male was given her to breathe. It doesn't make them horny and bothered but surely comfortable with their partner.
7. Ears (neurotransmitter) are biggest source of aphrodisiac
8. ROmantic infactuaction is related to high level of dope in natural stimuli and low level of Pherotones. Natural nerve in a brain.
9. Testerone is more responsible for sex drive.
10. Too strong testerone can result in irritable behaviour.
11. Chocolate may increase sexual gratification but will never be used for making someone fall in love.
12. Gen Sing increases energy of whole body.It also increased activity of sperms.
13. Women are prone to pregnancy during Ovulation period only.
14. Washing sperms after sex won't make any difference. Sperms are faster than you are.
15. Regular cycle/Irregular cycle have nothing to do with pregnancy.
16. Latex can be allergic for some men and there are other options available for condom. But for safe sex Latex is no.1 option.
17. Condom can make sex last longer. Thinner the condom better the sensation.
18. Birth control pill can have side effects which may kill the hormones for producing the baby forever.
19. Luna Fertility indicator. Black dots indicates non fertility while leaves/tree shape indicates fertility.
20. Femidom is female condom.
21. Pomgrenate may also be a good birth controller

Forbidden Fruit

1. sexual fantasy can build up sexual tension. They can transform our sex drive. Though it is a mind game, it can affect whole body. You can even have stronger orgasms with fantasy.
2. PPA is chemcical in body that enhances your sexual drive.
3. Fantasy are required for well balanced sexual drive.
4. 25% of people are ashamed of thier fantasy.
5. DOminator/Domineered are most basic fantasy of every human.
6. BUilding fantasy together is one of the strongest way to achieve strong orgasm and so can roleplay.
7. It is important to be aroused before the pain.
8. Scratching/Biting is very common in sexual course and so is tickling.
9. Vunerability may also be good part for great sex.
10. Women are more aroused by Sound and Touch while male are aroused by the physicality.
11. Men like to fantasize about multiple partner because it increases chances of thier reproduction while women can't increase her reproductivity with multiple partner and hence would prefer single investment partner who would enhance her.
12. Only 1/3 of men enjoy full nudity.
13. Fetish can become a habit which may replace the human to a object.
14. Mostly people are aroused by things that have some connection with thier childhood.

SEX DRIVE

1. Endorphins are direct commanders of testerone
2. Estrogen is Sexual neuro in human body. Women use it far more than men.
3. Testoterone tells body what to do to get that sex activity while Estrogen helps your body to be ready when sex is on th horizon.
4. Culture around is decides your sex drive. MOre permissive culture have better chances for more sex.
5. 62% men and 25% women go on vacation with intention to have sex (florida)
6. Human sexuality is very complex than most animals
7. Men have to have sex with women through a chain of period because they never know when female are ovulating. This leads to Pair Bonding.
8. More sex you have, More control you have on your sexual needs
9. Weather may also effect the sex drive
10. Large amount of Viagra can lead to LEVER problem
11. Stress can affect Menstrual cycle too. Women may skip thier periods during high stress.

MATING GAME

1. Eyes are strongest Decision maker for a man.(Laser Eyes)
2. Caressing a baby leads to better behaviour in future.(Massage)
3. Touch is the best sexual communication.
4. Smell of partner is considered one of the most primest need.
5. Good smell attracts more partner
6. Phermones can change women's mood. When a woman lives with same type of women around them, they tend to share phermones and that affects thier menstrual cycles.
7. Chocolate facts > EMAIL
8. PPA increases craving for the food.

LOVE JUICES

1. From Puberty to Menopause women sexual cycle changes every night.
2. There are 3 days in a cycle where Women are horniest, Considering they had Period over on 30th then
- First is week after Period - 5
- Around Ovulation - 16 > Peak cycle due to reproduction
- Pre Menstrual -25
3. Pill may affect the cycle. Aphrodisiac can help.
4. Women want to act more sexual when they are most fertile.
5. Pads are used for both keeping out odor and savor blood.
6. Women may have different types of craving after thier menstrual cycle
7. Pills may increase the number of cycles and also period for current event.
8. Sweat is one of the finest smell women like if it doesn't contain odor of non hygienic person.
9. During Ejacuation 1000s of sperms are released in one go but only one can get into the Egg. Healthiest and fastest one is given that application while rest are destroyed by women greasy line and are departed in form of urine.
10. Human produce 3 litres of saliva everyday.

LOVE TRIANGLE

1. Don't tell kids to be ashamed of thier body but tell them what is to be done in private and what in public.
2. Allow kids to be comfortable with themselves.
3. In french kiss back of the tongue is bitter and front of tongue is sweet.
4. Men use affair just for self satisfaction while women use it for escaping the relationship.
5. Only strong couple can have 3rd partner in thier relationship.
6. Mostly Men prefer 2 bisexual women but sometimes they do accept other guy sharing thier partner.

DOING IT RIGHT

1. Top 3 sexual positions
- Spoon
- Missionary
- CowGirl

2. Scientist have broken sexual activity in 4 stages
- Sexual Arousal
- Charging
- Orgasm (heartbeat rate is 140 i.e equal to workout) - Woman tend to be more orgasmic after pregnancy
- Resolution (Normalization)

3. Don't be afraid to tell your kids name of genitals
4. You have 500 million sperms in your testicles at all the time. That is enough to copulate whole world in a blow.
5. Porn video allows couple to have better sex.

BODY BEAUTIFUL

1. When women are horny thier breast swell around 25% in fat. Nipples gets erected because blood pumped is faster than blood pumped out.
2. When baby sucks women breast oxytocin is produced. Same chemical is produced when women are aroused.
3. Sometimes during breast feeding mothers may feel sexual excitation. Same happens when her lover sucks her breast.
4. Women should be comfortable about her own vagina.
5. WOmen clitoris have roughly around 8000 nerve endings that have sole purpose of giving them pleasure.
6. On avg vagina length is around 7 cm and when aroused it roughly increases by 5 cm.
7. Hymen are deciding factor of virginity which though can be put back by operation.
8. Gspot orgasm are much more stronger than Vaginal orgasm
9, Men have easy time in understanding that they are aroused or not but for women it is subtle. They may be sexually aroused and not feel excitement or they may not be aroused and feel the excitment. Women have to tune into thier bodies to understand thier own self.
10. clitoris simulation would give you better result than vaginal simulation.

SEX 101

1. What triggers puberty is still in question.For early puberty Some consider its artificial lights, other consider fatty fastfood.
2. Testosterone is required for keeping our bone healthy.
3. Guys have difficult time understanding PMS.
4. Best way to get into girls brain during her puberty is actually asking what change she feels about herself.
5. Half knowledge is dangerous in many ways. Students are learning about Internal combustion engine but they know nothing about break, speed etc. is going to put them out of contrast.
6. Lot of girls sexuality is related to Evolutionary circuit inside thier head. In old days they used to get married when they attained thier puberty and they were more likely to have lesser problems than todays girls. They still get competitive in this day and age at around 13.

BETTER SEX

1. In early stage men are not attracted to one partner but youth one partner.
2. Sex toys allow women sex lives to be really enhanced and Dildo isn't the only sex toy out there.
3. Porn video are supposed to be educational but they may mislead young guys. It is purely choreographned sexual dance which you see in porn to enhance your sexual fantasy.
4. Sex is mutual excitement.
5. Being in the moment is the best part of sex. It is sex in now.
6. Tantric sex is having strong orgasm without being sexual.
7. Peak feeling for women isn't after Orgasm. It is when Orgasm is going to out.
8. Body Electric sex is about bringing sexual energy out.
9. Doing Taboo can be a sexual high so can be Sexual anticipation.
10. Excitement = Attraction + Obstacles
11. Obstacles in relationship can make sex hotter ( Make up SEX)
12. Sex isn't about Orgasm but the Journey to Orgasm and all minor things in between.
13. Taking up hobby for healthy seperation leads to better sex too.
14. Loving yourself is also the main key for sexual enhancement.

CHEEKY SECRETS

1. Tea Bagging.
2. Move bottom to top and at top twist your hand around so that your palm is rubbing the top of penis.
3. Its easier to find gspot when women is aroused. It becomes hard erecting button inside women body.3
4. Don't insert finger/dick in women's pussy if she isn't wet.
5. You want to turn your conversation sexual sooner.
6. Men like women with less waist size and greater hips because it indicates fertility.
7. Fit women put fat on thier hips, Breast and buttocks.
8. Anal area is very very sensitive and hence it can be source of great pleasure for women.
9. Use surgical gloves thumb on your tongue as dental clamp for easy availability.
10. First only touch anal area with just finger tips and explore it till it expands. Don't push your finger straight in or it will hurt and just slowly swoop your finger in. Be steady.
11. Sex toy for anal should have good base.

CONSTANT CRAVING

1. Sex with wrong reasons is indicator of addiction.
2. Sex with stress line is compulsive.
3. For most people the main act of sex isn't as important as all the fantasizing and planning of it.
4. If you want fix for something, chances are your need to check your addiction.
5. If you remove something from someone life, and they feel emotions of withdrwal then chances are they are addicted to tha tobject.
6. Sensitive high is what drives addicts.Feeling of compulsion and doing something that shouldnt be done.
7. Addiction hasn't anything to do with frequency of sexual encounter but about craving for it whole time and consequences.
8. Most of the addictions happens with some sort of abuse in thier history.
9. Cyber porn is becoming new type of Addiction.
10. Helplessness is also part of addiction.
11. sexual addiction isn't to be remove sex completely but rather about getting in touch with healthy type of sex.

SEX, LIES AND ABSTINENCE

1. Sex Myths
- Penis size is equal to size of palm.
- Black males have larger penis than white.
- With sex you can lose your eye sight and have early death
- Everytime you have sex, you can get pregnant.
- You can wash out sperms after they enter vagina (sperms are way more faster than humans are)
- Sperm touching vagina can get women pregnant (Sperm has to enter into eggs)
- Masturbation causes hairy palm, isomania

2. Condom slippage
- 36% asian
- 27% Caucasian
- 22% African American

3. Condom Rips & Tear
-0% Asian
-7% caucasian
-18% African American

4. Penis size is more related to height.
5. ONLY 25% women achieve orgasm with penile penetration.
6. Size of Penis doesn't matter to most people and you need 4 inches only to be able for penetration.
7. Length of Penis is equal to length of palm and first cut of middle finger / size of foot.
8. Women that are aroused (doesn't matter large/small vagina or large/small penis), she is capable of being orgasmic.
9. Small penis have more erection than larger penis.
10.People breaking out of sexual repressive culture can give illusion that they are more sexual.
11.Most abstinence don't know the stages of sexuality and hence ends up being break in relationship.
12.If you are getting married late and you have no idea about how sex works, you are surely in deep trouble.It is further more complex when bride and groom both don't know mating stages.
13. Abstinence isn't good for men's sperm count for long duration. They become less fertile.
14. Abstinence is women hurt thier clitorial sensitivity and they find it hard to be orgasmic.
15. Virginity isn't some sort of prize women hold though they do have that illusion
16. Allow kids to have thier own options and give them both side of education than once. It would be insult to kids development if you enforce your belief on them. Give them pros and cons of both abstinence and good sexuality.

SEXPECTING

1. You can have sex when women is pregnant.
2. Men fear that they may hurt the baby by having sex during the pregnancy but baby is well protected in ameotic site.
3. Baby isn't aware of you are having but aware of positive feelings you acquire from the sex.
4. Release of endorphins can excite the baby in womb, So does hearing father voice close to womb.
5. Women may push thier partner away during pregnancy that may affect overall relationship. They feel low self esteem and feel very unattractive to themselves and don't like being touch.
6. Do start expermenting during pregnancy
7. Many women experience greater level of lubrication,engorgements,swolleness in thier genital areas which enhances thier sex.
8. Putting on weight puts of women so does great amount of hormonal changes.
9. Women get better and faster orgasm during pregnancy with finger stimulation.
10. In first 12 weeks uterus length expands around 7.5 cm and weigh about 28 grms.
11. Don't blow air in vagina during oral sex. It can damage blood veins and kill the woman.
12. Second trimester does all good for women. Thier nausea is replaced by sexual craving. Though she has gained around 15 pounds.
13. Third Trimester is trickiest of all as size of belly grows really large.
14. Breast grow larger and more sensitive and curve looks better
15. If you are ready for labor, Having sex may be ticket to early and easier delivery.
16. Semen softens the cervix which allows smoother birth.
17. Anything that releases oxytocin will bring lady close to labor. This can be sensitive touching to nipples, intercourse or clitorial stimulation.
18. Contraction of Uterus forces oxytocin to run through out the body. Rush of oxytocin in body during delivery can give orgasmic feeling for some while others may become emotional.
19. First 6 week after baby birth, couples are restricted for sex.
20. Men may feel excluded a bit because huge amount of energy is spent in nurturing and feeding the baby.
21. Helping mother in nurturing may help in longer term.
22. After 4 months of birth women are back to normal.
23. Showing baby the healthy relationship between parents has long term positive effects in thier growth.

ULTIMATE SEX LIST.

1. TOP 10 SEXIEST LIST for mating.

- Jacuzzi (with candles, champagne and fruits)
- Dance > Tango
- Long Hair
- Fruit > Banana > Strawberry
- Sports Car > Comfort rich car
- Candles >Aroma
- Perfume (People are slaves to smell they love)
- Silk clothing (esp. when women are not wearing undergarments)
- Music > Guitar > Electric Guitar
- Letters

2. Top 10 Clothes

- Lingerie - silk laceys
- Corset
- Stilletos
- Black Leather jacket
- Boots > black
- Tuxedo
- Evening Dress > Red and Black
- The Suits > Black
- T- Shirt > White
- Jeans > Blue

ADULTS ONLY

1. 10,000 movies a year and earns 20 billion a year.
2. Viagra doesn't make you hard but it puts everything in line for you to get hard.
3. Focus on what turns you on that is how its done.
4. women who know how to strip have better relationship with thier partner.
5. Men prefer to go to strip clubs alone and have pleasure, Women prefer to go in group and laugh about it yet secretly have pleasure.
6. Biggest secret to strip club is that It gives fake idea that you can be intimate with the girl yet you won't get to have sex with her. It keeps business running for year and person chasing same stripper for ages.
7. If Girl is feeling depressed, Just tell her to go and strip for some male. Just being adored and be complimented will make her day gloom. Best emotion she can get and give is the Feeling of grounding to who we are. Men will feel more manly because she is satisfied. Women will be enjoying her pleasure.

Bi way and Tri way.

1. Multiple relationship can work in certain protocol
2. Female are more bisexual than man are.
3. Finding your sexual identity can be very hard for many people
4. Men's mind are built to entertain multiple relationships
5. Humans are very jealeous species
6. Your lover may not be one who has everything that you need from her/him.
7. You are responsible to get your needs met.
8. Jealeousy was built for relationship safety but it can actually destroy one too in very hazard way.
9. Polygamy can be fatal for children in Monogamy society because what they are being taught outside conflicts with what they have been seeing in their home. If you prefer polygamy then giving right education about it to your kids is very neccessary.
10. It is upto your partner on how to embark your relationship in adventure.

PRESCRIPTION SEX

1. Masturbation is good for health.
2. Having sex once or twice a week helps you to relax more than any meditation.
3. Make up sex is considered great because of release of tension from your body. It releases endorphins from hormones to make you feel lighter.
4. Sex is the best pain killer. IF you have an headache, get orgasm and you will feel better.
5. Vaginal stimulation in women can act as pain block ( deals with headache, muscular pain). Better the pleasure higher the pain threshold.
6. regular sex makes you look younger. Couples that have sex atleast 3 times a week looks 10 years younger than those who don't.
7. For disabled person, It takes more imagination to have sex but it does help them.
8. Vibrator, Tongue Lapse etc (toys) can increase pleasure 3 folds.

PUT IT ON TURN IT ON

1. Everything to do with Sex show - NOTES
2. Toys
- Vibrator
- Butt Plug
- Swinger
- Phone to Gspot/ Phone to Blow
- Vaginal licker
- Dildos ( women prefer glass/acryllic)
- Dildo cum Vibrator (trigasm)

3. Ideas
- Dipping body part in Aphrodisiac

4. Women prefer having toys that don't look like a Penis yet they provide sensual pleasure to both G Spot and Clitoris.
5. Remote controlled vibrator are more preferred by the couples.
6. You always want butt plug with good base.
7. Do not share your toys.
8. Put condom on dildo/vibrator or get silicon toys.It also can be sterlised by cleaning it in boiling water.
9. Sex toy can never replace your partner.
10. Sex toys are just enhancer to your sex life not the main dish.
11. Condoms can be rolled by female from thier mouth. And they should leave top space empty for sperms.

WILD & WHIPPED

1. Fantasy can be one of the core component to your sexual diet.
2. You can't enjoy sex when you are feeling guilty for something
3. Men's fantasy are getting hardcore and quickly move on to sex while women fantasy are about touch and relationship building.
4. In fantasy you control everything. In real life people are people
5. Fantasy allows better stimulation of the organs and orgasm.
6. Mind is more stimulator about sex than your sexual parts.

DATING SECRETS

1. You want to let other person know that your partner is something you want.
2. Stay away from food dates, and do something adventerous together.
3. SMile more on your dates
4. Trade a secret.
5. Don't Create any physical barrier, be a good listener.
6. IF they look too analytical, Call them out on it. HEY CHILLL!!!
7. Keep creating opportunities to touch.

Nicknames

2010-10-14T09:43:00.002+05:30

holy whores

You are like happy virus and people around you can't stop to catch it.

Fantasy.
1. Shower
2. Walking on beach
3. Yatch
4. Handcuffs
5. Roses around you and lamps looking like candles in heart shape.
6.

Good names list

1. Cannibal
2. Dracula
3. Junglee
4. Motu
5. Super Tantrumer
6. Crazy
7. jerk
8. CHota Nuclear
9. Devil
10. Princess
11. baccha
12. Virus
13. Brat
14. Sugar/Honey
15. Fatheaded
16. Iraqi
17. Groupie
18. Snotty
19. Cleopatra
20. Hitler
21. Elizabeth
22. Rose
23. Teddy
24. Barbie
25. Moss
26. Bliss
27. Dazzlicious
28. Gloriana
29. Reaper
30. Eva

Nick from sheel

1. Perv
2. Twat
3. muppet
4. Shithead

Quote of the day by Cody - Natural Response

2010-10-04T21:01:00.000+05:30

"I want to have emotions. If I don't ,I would be more of a ROBOT but rather Positive psyche should answer than punitive one" - Cody

Lords of Rings

2010-09-14T14:14:00.002+05:30

In the Lord of the Rings, the tiny "hobbit" Frodo was given a
great responsibility. He was given the "One Ring" - a ring of
terrible power - and was the only being who had the moral
courage to destroy it.

In a moment of despair, he said to the wise and powerful
Gandolf ...

Frodo: I wish the ring had never come to me. I wish that none
of this had happened.

Gandolf: So have all who have lived to see such times,
but that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what
to do with the time that is given to us.

Sony Reader PRS-600 Review (TOUCH edition) - E book Reader

2010-09-09T10:50:00.007+05:30

It has been a while since I got to own Sony PRS 600. When I first got it, I was hyped and elated. I probably own first ever Sony PRS 600 in my country. I can’t confirm the fact but somehow nobody I know that has even remotely heard about Sony Reader. Everyone tethers around with it in awe. Girls just have snazzy habit of leaving their own signatures and designs on them. Just pure doodles. I have seen them doing the same on my green board. They just love idea of being given a big surface on which they can just do whatever.

Sony reader is glossy and stylish. Touch screen is bit hard pressed but completely doable. It is nowhere near Apple products such as Ipod/Ipad/Iphone ; meaning that it requires good old stylus. I would say Sony is dilettante in this field. It is definitely not pocketable, however it is smaller than most of voluminous books I am used to reading. I can just carry it wherever I like it. It is light weight and I happily add it to my backpack every time I travel unless I am sure I would be reading paper book on the journey.

Sony reader has inbuilt dictionary which really helps when you are reading difficult book I have habit or reading online and whenever I come across a new word, I just copy the word and hit Google. On web browser Chrome, you just have to click on the word and right click it and hit search button and it would come up with the meaning. I follow similar habit on my Reader. I just click on the word and dictionary pop ups the meaning. I read difficult books on Reader as it is easier to read there than making sure on dictionary that I am getting the right meaning.

Some speed readers may claim that I have a bad habit of checking for meaning instead of trying to comprehend the meaning but English is a complex language. One word can have multiple meanings and you might end up picking up wrong meaning rather than the one that was intended by the author. I have a deep experience about taking wrong meaning of the sentence and comprehend the right meaning. If you think otherwise, just try some university entrance exam and check how much your score on reading comprehension section. I have barely seen anyone getting full score on them.

Reader comes with many features such as playable mp3, images etc. To be honest, I never like it’s image option as it shows color picture in grayscale. I love having colorful photos and only like black/white pictures when they look professional and show distinct features of the shot. When you have taken ambiguous shot with no focus, it looks horrible.

Reader is so light and has such a huge memory that you can carry up to over 1000 books on the small thing. However I can’t imagine the nightmare wasting time scrolling to look for the book. I would suggest storing no more than 50 books. It allows you to read multiple books simultaneously; not side by side but rather like bookmarking the page and coming to it later on exact same page. It will open the book where you left it. However, I would like to remind that it doesn’t have very huge cache and would slow down if done with too many books.

Document scan option is brilliant. It makes reading on Reader a bonus. If I forgot something and want to go back to something as I don’t remember the page on which content was present, I can just search; unlike traditional system where I had to scan through pages and figure out where did I read that particular paragraph. I am sure most of you who refer to references fiddle around to find the right page. I was in clear advantage when I was giving open book exam where everyone was scanning through text and finding answers while I just would search for keywords and get the answer instantly.

Paper Vs Sony E- Book reader

Advantages of Reader:
1. You can make notes right on the device instead of needing a paper. You can highlight the text on the book. I am a person who finds difficult to read a book that is severely underlined and like to have fresh copy maintained. I can read whole book by not being distracted.
2. Dictionary on the spot. Just double click on the word.
3. Notepad available with the book which makes it even better to scribble quickly. Though screen isn’t that responsive so you can’t write that fast as you do with your handwriting.
4. Plug in Memory card. So instead of carrying extra book I can carry small MMC cards.
5. Search for the text as explained above.
6. Easier to carry one thing on travel than too many books.
7. Eco-Friendly and lasts longer in rugged used.
8. Ever had coffee spill or water spill or rain that ruined your book completely, At least damage isn’t so huge on this one.
9. Your hands don’t hurt when you reading voluminous book. Book size remains the same for you.
10. Piracy is free in major way. Don’t pay for the books you don’t like.
11. Other use: I could not get my HP camera loaded on my system, so I just removed my memory card and plugged it in my Sony Reader and simply transferred all the photos.
12. It’s better than Kindle in its allowance of Open format.
13. Social networking through Sony Daily is awesome. You can post your book notes while read someone else notes on book. It’s connected to Facebook and Twitter (via web when you sync the device to computer) and not directly.

Disadvantages of Reader:
1. It is still more fun to read on paper.
2. My reader is black and white and completely removes the fun of watching color books. I read many colorful books too or books with diagrams.
3. Charging, I hate this part. Every 6 hours of reading you require charging. This is horrid. You have to stop the book in middle and find charging point. Searching for charging while travelling can be very penurious experience. May be in west it may not be a big concern but in India, it is a gigantic game changer. Either Sony should elongate battery to at least 24 hours or find other mediums to charge it. I can’t underscore enough how battery takes fun out of your reading on Reader.
4. There is no way to know how much battery is charged and how much is remaining. You do not have access to rough battery life. Red and Green light during charging isn’t enough.

Specification

 Size: 175.3 x 121.9 x 10.2 mm (6.9" x 4.8" x 0.4")
 Weight: 286 g (10.1 oz)
 Display: 6 inch. touch-screen
 Resolution: 600 x 800 pixels
 Document Search Capability
 Gray scale: 8-levels gray scale
 Internal Memory: 512MB, 380MB accessible
 Expanded Memory: Support for Sony Memory Stick Pro DUO and SDHC
 Font Size: 5 adjustable font sizes
 Battery: Sealed internal, up to two weeks of reading on a single charge
 MSRP: US$170
 Available case colors:
 PRS-600BC: Black
 PRS-600SC: Silver
 PRS-600RC: Red

Conclusion
Sony Reader is cool device to have. It makes life simpler on multiple levels. However if you can’t be bothered to charge your device all the time, then you may not use it as often as you desire. However, if you don’t mind charging then it’s cool and of course it’s not like mobile phones where you can use your device while charging. It is useless as long as you are charging your device. Device always manages to raise eye lids and somehow it makes girls go crazy, not with you but with device. Albeit, they wouldn’t hang out with you just because you own the device, it just adds fun when they are around you. It is just cool to have something fun around.

Getting girl in Bed

2010-08-17T12:48:00.001+05:30

This one has worked with 100% success so far. This would actually work for someone like Thug very easily.

I have access to awesome new music. I am a guy who has a song for every situation in mind. India being big on piracy, everyone likes to trade music via bluetooth or on pen drive.

I just tell girls, I have too many awesome songs and they should come over with their drives. So far nobody has said no for coming over with their drive. It kills resistance completely. Even on cold open, If you talk about music and some how show it to her that you are man with good music taste, they become eager to trade music. Its one of the plus plus in India.

After they come over, just take them to your room, Turn on the music > couple dancing ( I don't know good one, Just copy few moves from David Deangelo - Body Language program) > Kiss > (whatever you can think of doing)

One sticking point - I can get the clothes off but face lot of LMR and using LMR dissolving techniques, I lose my boner. I get in analytical mode.

Perception: Cause of Cardinal, Carnal, Carnage and Dogmatist

2010-07-19T14:59:00.002+05:30

My perception made a person believed that I can’t be loved as nobody could understand me. I made a persona around me that strengthen by beliefs pillars. I knew my mother was more affectionate towards my elder brother and she would go out of her way to set things right for him which also meant side stepping on me and being able to ignore me.

Thanks to my self- bringing and growing on my account with structure provided by school made me invincibly wild. I was too strong too powerful and very mighty. Not a person you would normally pick fights with and if you did, you would be salvaged. I could beat up 2 guys elder to me and go unscathed.

Thanks to my parents who thought about putting me in different education cartel that gave me different pillars to hang on. Though even during that process of self excoriating still existed. I didn’t believe that people around me could care about me. It was new rationalization and yet another placebo where I just felt people around me couldn’t just accept the way I am. The aggressive powerful demeanour who meant well and not care about anything except living in own bubble. Anybody breaking that silence rule would be scathed and confronted. I wasn’t a bully that would annoy people just for fun of it. I would rather just fight it out if people disturbed me.
I was same to everyone, Teachers, parents, student or anybody. Teacher who let me do things my way or gave me positive structure to bend towards were appreciated and people who tried to do alimony material almost couldn’t stand eye to eye with me. I would be found outside classroom in almost all the periods.

With the help of deep inner game material such as blueprint and practicing all that stuff in reality re defined me. Lot of my brainchild came with me through the phases of the life. My perception even in new reality made backlash at me. I find it really easy to play with people sensitivities and get them in real confrontational mode and then I would stupidly fight back. Now I have deeper sense of power for myself and hence feel that I am able to control the reality to very large extent. Now if I don't like anything I can put it out with sense of humor that doesn't make people fight back and yet my task gets done.

Earlier I couldn’t make friends due to fact that I felt that nobody wants to be with me. When I let that reality transcend and made friends and wanted to be part of them, they accepted it and responded by accepting and calling me. Yet I still submerge old conscience of people who haven’t been there to see me transition and changing my pillars of reality to new compassionate self. It’s become more epical as I haven’t seen a soul who has worked so hard for their self improvement as I have. I am sure I will meet lot of them out there very soon.

For now I have to try and learn to accept myself and incept idea in my head that I am a person who is generally loved by all. With such new concrete pillars of belief I allow myself to stop fighting and start accepting love. Yes I do meet face to face with my naive self every time I am out on a date with cherishing lady who couldn’t do more than she does for me. She just wants me to guide her to love me the way I would like to be loved and she happily complies. That’s the reality that allows me to go out and communicate on deeper sense of the notion of all lovely folks out there.
Once in a while I still doubt that person who I am out with is genuine or not and only answer is that I have to be genuine enough myself to let glass across me reflect the same compassion. By changing my perception I open up new windows for new reality and adventure to take place and I have yet another saga to share with everybody.

Quote of the day by Cody - Opinion

2010-06-02T09:48:00.001+05:30

Pledge: It's not my duty to convince you to have right choice. Just laugh it off! ~ Cody

The Guru

2010-05-23T12:35:00.003+05:30

He has a Style about him. He walks with demeanour of confidence. He has that enigma, Megalomania and Aura about him that as soon as he walks in you notice him. His voice is Loud, Brash and enough to break your rhythm and distraction. You can't help but set your focus on him. He is having his own fun, amusing himself and totally unapologetic by what he does. It almost sounds like he is avatar of Alexander the great of Macedonia, A land which his father Philips watching his mannerism said “Son, Empire of Macedonia is too short for you; you are far mightier than small empire I and ancestors before have created for you. You deserve to own this world. “

He dresses himself with top notch clothes. Yet he has presence that can make cheap clothing look cool and chic. Women can't help but wanting to shred their clothes as soon as he strikes conversation with them. It’s like he is sparking attraction buttons (causing intoxicated effects). She acts like she is sloshed and loses her inhibition of self control and wanting him to take over her. He has halo where you want to submit your decision making to him and let him decide what is good for you and what isn't. May be that frustrates him yet he fails to realize that it is his own doing that has such bizarre effects.

He talks like he has seen it all. Yet he is yet to age. You are not sure to feel sorry for him or be anguished by him. He is like high school kid that doesn't know why he is in the high school as he knows it better than teachers and knows it all. There is nothing there for him. He seeks company of only those who are going to understand his wisdom and benefit from him or someone to provide him wisdom and epiphanies which would take him a level higher. He is greater philanthropist than you can understand. You just have to keep your mental notes mode on and keep taking notes.

I seek his tutelage and his wisdom and desire to become his best student ever as it is said greatness of pupil is mirror of his Master wisdom. May be he will be Aristotle and Alexander in one for Hephaestion to make his own place.

Quote of the day by Cody - Obsession with a Woman

2010-05-07T22:30:00.000+05:30

"A man may become obsessed with a deity woman if he is so fond of her that he nourishes himself in cipher of her" ~ Cody

Quote of the day by Cody - Relationship

2010-05-06T19:18:00.000+05:30

"A relationship is like an open highway both way.. if there is wall coming in between.. means its broken." ~ Cody

Quote of the day by Cody - Grudges

2010-05-06T19:16:00.000+05:30

People with mind full of grudges, destroy thyself than the others. Even Sweet Revenge is momentary happiness rather than solitude peace of mind. Cycle of grudge keeps them sick, distracted and acheful heart." ~Cody

Impulsive Consumerism Vs Standard Consumerism

2010-04-29T17:22:00.004+05:30

Consumerism has increased the creation of products that tempt the psych of people beyond the ability to argue or see through it. We desire a new object so much that we are ready to catapult resources to get hands on the product way before it is launched.

People hold themselves with very high esteem when they are able to access the product before general mass can and totally own the bragging rights. Jealousy is borne through such inoculate products. We are fighting for something that we don’t want and won’t even need it after 10 days yet for those 10 days we are on top of the world as we are able to access the hot product that everyone wants hands on. We are not even sure about usefulness of the product.

Air Jordan shoes were just shoes, but the hype that Michael Jordan was able to create around those shoes created people to rob shops, give off their monthly income or even kill someone just to get pair of sneakers which didn’t do anything more than just become a style icon. People stood in lines for 2 days outside Apples stores to get hands on IPAD which most of them found just cute product to use yet not sure why they have it. It was just beautiful and candid to human eyes.

Creating Eye candy proved to be disastrous for many mobile phones and famous debacle of Windows Vista. They looked very pretty but were just useless. There are so many mobile phones which were spectacular to look at but didn’t work due to lack of hardware support. There are so many personal spa objects that are so useless yet companies roll out with range of product which is just an idea.

Consumer has power to make people sad for their lives. A product that they do not need yet they want to consume makes them sad because they are not rich or well connected or incapable for some XYZ reason. New boom of 3D TV and visuals has made till now perfectly happy Flat viewers. Just because they are physically challenged and do not have capability to view modern 3D standard video they feel depressed.

I am not against consumerism. I am rather against gluttony that consumerism should define life for you. In movie In to the wild where protagonist learns hard way of the nature, There is a good message too that tells us how some people feel so pressured by current lifestyle that they leave certain standards of life and move into something more remote connecting to themselves.

There are countless stories where a person who is educated beyond most people go dark and do not want to live corporate life but develop something in remote regions which gives them satisfaction. In the book “The monk who sold his Ferrari” core lesson is same that people find a big disconnect between what the culture around them wants to do (certain pedigree of standards which tells you how successful you are rather than your own created standards). People ought to be able to define standards of their own life and do what they desire to do.

Every now and then I want to disconnect from the Technology at my disposable and go in remote region for personal relaxation. My college dictates certain schedule of my life but I still would love to go out in the world and enjoy extreme sports and connect with the self. Do Yoga, meet new people, Learn from them and teach them. It is argument which life is better larger or deeper? Connection to world makes life larger and more open and ability to comprehend different reality versus a rural life where people lives connected to his standards and is in connect with people around him. He knows everyone in his village while urban life can be where person doesn’t know his neighbour yet he knows many people in different country who have no common culture with him. Which life is richer?

There are products that make you feel trapped and make you feel unable to move around without them difficult. People would rather die than live 10 days without their cell phones. Take away their internet connection and you see signs of depression, randomness, irritability. Again there are products such as GPS navigator, Mp3 players etc. which makes your life easy but not make you slave to them.

Again there is Prosumerism where you can purchase a kit and design your own product and add features you like. The reason Dell is so popular is you are able to build branded product that are designed to your need. Prosumerism makes work for companies easier as you can fix your own product with minimum effort. They just give you step by step online fix which cuts time for them and you.

Market works on trends and then every company jumps on same bandwagon to create competitive product. Every year a new standard defines mobile phones and successive models that are going to be launched. One year it was competition of megapixels, another year it was operating system features, another year was multimedia capability and multi tasking and current year it is Processor speed and graphics rendering. Trend builds de facto standard of what you are suppose to consume. Avatar success hopped all major electronic producer jump 3D bandwagon.

Creating new bandwagon also created more unhappy mass where every time big companies forgets a market segment who would like to consume such products. People with bad vision can’t appreciate 3D bandwagon; People with limited resources are unable to get Noise Cancelling headphones whose durability is very much in question. Hence there is haters market where people would do anything to brick certain company.

Though dictating standard of consumerism for people is right thing to do or are just Fortune 500 companies just trying to bully their way into your personal pockets? Are they so powerful that they rule your psyche or are we so jitters that we fail to see what product is for ours to consume and what not to? Question still remains are we advancing to a greater prodigious realm or are we advancing towards intelligent idiocy.

A dream

2010-04-18T23:36:00.001+05:30

I am pretty sure I would be a different person coming around October/November
Thats wut I am looking at everyday I feel like
By that time I would be removed from my body and put in new body
which is fit, healthy ,new habits, new soul, new drive
ability to achieve what I desire and that is going to come by hard work,self driven motivation

Thats how I see time line
Thats my illusion and imagination
It feels something spiritual.Imparting from one body and entering the next one.

Sub cult , Fraternity and Self Service/Help

2010-03-13T18:35:00.002+05:30

Community, Cult, Culture and Religion are one thing and Fraternity and Communion is different. We are growing up in era where we are clue less about our choices. Legendary speakers talk about need of goal but they never speak about path we are suppose to take. We are suppose to figure it out. There is no blueprint to our goals. We have to just get out of our comfort zone and try out different things and see what works.

But what if our goals are misguided and what we believe our destination is may just be a stop in journey of life. People want money, Status etc. but they are means of some end. They are nothing in themselves. For most people end goals is recognition and pride in community. This is how we have funny parents who on one race are pushing their kids to be top in academics, sports etc. while, when they go out and shop they end up purchasing things that is useless or may be not good enough in quality. It may be good in aesthetics but not par the standards they set for their kids.

Quality vs. Quantity is age old argument. We hear phrase quality over quantity but is that a right phrase for those people who want excellence and quality on one side of their life and would not hear compromise while on other part of their life they are way off about quality of food they eat, lifestyle they live and things they settle with.

Era of Identity crisis

One side of coin we hear improve, outscore and adapt. Flip side we hear repulsion of transformation. “That’s not you. Be yourself!” You changed so much that we can’t even recognize you no more. One side you want settlers, flip side you want progress. How can those two occur on the same page?

Confusion! This is where fraternities, sub cult and self service/helps steps in. We need someone to tell us what is healthy and what is not. Some of it is available and answered by science while some part needs to be figured out. Some people need to join rehab, self- challenges, diet program etc to get it right while other need. I still do not know what is right to eat and what is not. There are so many different philosophies out there. What is logical is not right way to go about it.

You are fat, work out. HARD! But, hard has certain unknown boundary or your body gives up. Logically I thought more Cardio I did, better it should be. Then I learnt 20 minute is maximum you should do when you are on trade mill or any related
equipment. Try pacing in same limit. Quality over quantity workout!

This is when you realize, you are confused and need some real help. You have to find a community which answers those questions and learn the rules. Every rule book written by them has to be considered and understood why it is way it is, so you know when to go along with the rules and when to break rules when necessary. If you going to follow rule book literally, it may completely backfire.

Self help community runs parallel to multiple communities related to Love, Money and Health. You have to solve whole triangle completely. I have mentioned them in broad category though. When you figure all three of them , you are good enough. You do not have to excel in everything you do. Set the limit and implement the boundaries else it may go over the top. Totally out of context and may be away from your lifeline goal. For now as 50 cents said it “Get Rich or Die trying” or anything related.

Culture, Cult, Community and Religion

2010-03-06T10:06:00.003+05:30

These are the ways identity of person is decided. People seek external sources to answer their life questions and they need a blueprint to act upon. They need something to believe in and when they believe it is hard for them to change what they believe and that is the reason why what parents and society embed in them stays with them throughout their live.

Those beliefs may be baseless but they are given structure like it physically exists. People would even fight it out if you threaten the very structure and integrity of their life on basis of which they are living as they can’t imagine living a lie.
Most of the religions developed are outdated and feels no relevance to modern day life. Hence people need answer for what to do now. They go out to different societies, cults and try out various philosophies. It gives them idea of feeling of relevancy. Human being is an social animal and when they enter a new cult or culture, they are welcomed with open arms and are beamed in approval by old members and they feel at home.

Most of the species lack power of decision making and they prefer someone else to make decision for them. Give them a blueprint on which they can base their life on and feel right about it. We have very few natural leaders while rest of them are just followers seeking answers and trying to fix part of their life. If new cult doesn’t solve part of their issue then they will jump to new cult till that paradox has been solved.

This allows people to switch religions, accept new ideologies. Many Christians feel that they have no faith in current system and they look out to Hindu Text or Buddhist text. Non vegetarians become vegans and Vegetarians start consuming non-veg food. Such conversions occur when they find a idealist who can massage their grey brain nerves. People start to follow some new age Christian movement or Jihad or Osho or Hare Rama Hare Krishna or even secret communities like Skulls & Bones, Freemasons, Kleiza, Ku Klux Klan.

They also join sub communities like Free Software movement, Seduction community, Linux to provide them with a career and personal gratification of ongoing personal life crisis. They join digital piracy group which has different barter system based on ratio of share. People should share their material to 1:1.

We do not know what we are learning is right or wrong. We just adapt to new philosophy if it makes some sense and gives us certain benefits. It can be anything from status, partner, money or anything that gives us gratification. Life is modelled for us and we follow those model till there is off bounce material that gives us new type of gratification that allows new age Motivational gurus such as Tony Robbins, Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra and other famous folks step in our lives.

People may give up certain part of their lives to cultivate themselves into new foundation. They may even give up sex and join celibacy club or gratify their sexual desire and go on sexual and money escapades. They may even go to extreme measures such as physically inflicting punishment on themselves for sins they perform. Some even give up materialistic world and enter into saint hood. Even extreme measures such as giving up one family life are not uncommon.

New culture is so ingrained in many people life that each sentence they speak is rational absorption from community they are part of. They even have blasé of community gossip. Where some new wave of thinking is scrutinized till effigies or boredom give their way or even newer wave thinking arises.

Anyone who lives on planet earth knows about certain battle/war going on between certain community, cult or religion. We have seen many super celebrities joining certain cult and donating large sums of money to them. Even people who seem to have everything seem to feel something lacking. They seek someone else leadership. As

Alvin Toffler coined the term “PsychoSphere” for psychic paradigm shift we are having due to evolution of new era and new thinking to compensate for trying to maintain sanity in world where culture has evolved different to belief we were born with. We all have strong compulsion to have our own life in our own control and yet they are failing to manage that even.

People who adapt with evolution are finding it easy to cope up with new era while people who do not like change are in huge stress to make life work their own way. They are technology and evolution basher. We can often hear them say “Son, in our times, world used to work this way.” It feels like they are done with living and ready to quit. Reason they are fighting is because of mismatch between tradition and transformation.

What shall we give up in name of Evolution? If we give away certain part of us as evolution, does that mess with our identity of which we are or how society is around us? We are confused or even terrified. How should we find a right compromise between evolution (and revolution) and tradition? It is identity congruency that is the biggest sticking point.

New Competition and reason to end old odds

2010-02-26T12:56:00.001+05:30

I find it really funny when folks fight about ethnic profiles. What is it that they dislike about each other so much? The way they do their rituals or way they pray? What makes them so different that even socializing with them makes you wonder about why you doing something like that.

Obviously Japanese and American would find it difficult to co-exist together as one is quiet and other is obnoxious. They aim towards different lifestyles. I understand that part. But what about cultures that are literally the same?

Nerd hero would love his gadgets and super skills irrespective of his profile. Around the world they would anticipate launch of products at CES and wish they could get hands on those entire spell bounding gadgetry. They would chase same James Bond super cars and anticipate classic lifestyle.

Difference in ethnic profile is rather based on personal stereotypes such as Nerds, Party guys, Womanizers, Professionals, hellhounds etc. People irrespective of different culture profile have more in common than they believe. They can mutually co-exist as long as they are not made to do things that they really would not care about to do.

Even in home where family is mixture of Orthodox and Non believers there is more chaos in such existence then in existence of people who are orthodox in their own community and Non believers in their own right. Ameliorating such community based on character of a person rather than base of caste creed or culture can lead to propensity towards greater good or goals.

People in general love gossip and multinationals. Two cultures which cannot stand each other love to part take in same multinational company. They love buying products from those very brands or working hard to get employed in those firms with expectancy of higher pay checks

India and Pakistan both love Bollywood. We are literally the same nation if you leave the political agenda on turf. Internal ballistic of political agenda creates a invisible cult and mass hatred. USA war against Muslim nation created massive upheaval. For betterment of society we obviously need something to bicker on so we can produce statistics of self growth. We love Intel and AMD warring it out on microprocessor chips. Apple, Microsoft and Google are fighting it out to provide one up service where as service providers fighting price war to provide cheaper service to clientele. I can call it necessary evil but I would rather love to see political fights to one up stability of the nation. Every nation going on war with other nation to provide better service to their immigrants than fighting about who can ante up better mass destruction unit.

Let production be the cause of the fight rather than destruction of a Clan, Nation or Ethnic profile. Obviously, it would take a little time for new generation to clean up such personal battles especially in era of War on Terrorism. Neo-colonialization is story of the past. Today is fight about one ante up services, research, science and rationing of freedom for self production.

You Are Not a Princess! 25 Points for Women and Men to Consider

2010-01-10T13:38:00.000+05:30

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Gait may be associated with orgasmic ability

2009-12-26T11:24:00.000+05:30

Paisley, Scotland – September 04, 2008 - A new study found that trained sexologists could infer a woman's history of vaginal orgasm by observing the way she walks. The study is published in the September 2008 issue of The Journal of Sexual Medicine, the official journal of the International Society for Sexual Medicine and the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health.

Led by Stuart Brody of the University of the West of Scotland in collaboration with colleagues in Belgium, the study involved 16 female Belgian university students. Subjects completed a questionnaire on their sexual behavior and were then videotaped from a distance while walking in a public place. The videotapes were rated by two professors of sexology and two research assistants trained in the functional-sexological approach to sexology, who were not aware of the women's orgasmic history.

The results showed that the appropriately trained sexologists were able to correctly infer vaginal orgasm through watching the way the women walked over 80 percent of the time. Further analysis revealed that the sum of stride length and vertebral rotation was greater for the vaginally orgasmic women. "This could reflect the free, unblocked energetic flow from the legs through the pelvis to the spine," the authors note.

There are several plausible explanations for the results shown by this study. One possibility is that a woman's anatomical features may predispose her to greater or lesser tendency to experience vaginal orgasm. According to Brody, "Blocked pelvic muscles, which might be associated with psychosexual impairments, could both impair vaginal orgasmic response and gait." In addition, vaginally orgasmic women may feel more confident about their sexuality, which might be reflected in their gait. "Such confidence might also be related to the relationship(s) that a woman has had, given the finding that specifically penile-vaginal orgasm is associated with indices of better relationship quality," the authors state. Research has linked vaginal orgasm to better mental health.

The study provides some support for assumptions of a link between muscle blocks and sexual function, according to the authors. They conclude that it may lend credibility to the idea of incorporating training in movement, breathing and muscle patterns into the treatment of sexual dysfunction.

"Women with orgasmic dysfunction should be treated in a multi-disciplinary manner" says Irwin Goldstein, Editor-in-Chief of The Journal of Sexual Medicine."Although small, this study highlights the potential for multiple therapies such as expressive arts therapy incorporating movement and physical therapy focusing on the pelvic floor."

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Why we kiss

2009-12-22T11:41:00.001+05:30

Good Article.
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Cindy Gallop: Make love, not porn

2009-12-05T19:03:00.000+05:30

PM Writes about me part 2

2009-09-21T08:31:00.002+05:30

Cody .....
A true fun loving creature, wants to stroll
around the entire world with marvelous passion to cheerrrr everyone.
The Liveliness,Flair and Charm that he carries,separate him from the rest.
very Loving, Caring, Understanding, Smart, Intelligent, Jovial, Cool, Alluring, Attractive,Appealing,Sweet,Good-looking,Charming,Attention-grabbing, Impressive,Remarkable,Incredible,Fascinating,Terrific,Excellent
Fantastic,Tempting,Persuasive,Influential,Graceful,Prominent,Amazing,
Pleasing,Congenial,Adventurous,Spiritual,Gutsy, Naughty,Awesome,Kind-hearted,Lovable,Funky,Mind blowing, talented,Hard working,Cool,Spicy,Innocent,Crazy, Fun loving,Adorable Pleasant,Admirable.....so on [;)]
I can keep on using all the positive adjectives for him.... (now stop lying)

A straight forward , no non-sense guy. He is careful and delicate in details. He will spent extra time to doing it right, than comes back to correct them later. He hates people who boost, or exaggerate.
He loves to read. He loves poems.He is a thinker and able to do well at work and always succeed.He has the ability to know your thought and able to tell
you what you are thinking about. He can mostly memorize all his anger, his loves.

He will be everything that you want and everything you do not want.He has plenty of love for you. He is a good speaker, as much as he is a good
listener. When he is with you, he wants to be happy. He likes a cheery and a smart woman. If you treat him like he is your special person, then he will be that special person for you. He will trust you if he is in love, but try
not to over doing it and spoil him too much. He moves very fast and very energetic,and he has a very self confident in himself. He is not the type to sit down and feel sorry or regret anything for long, especially with "Love". He loves justice. He dares to show his opinion or even argue about certain
subject even he knows it might bring him problems. A straight forward type of guy.

He hardly lies except if he think it is necessary. He interests only at the present time and look at the world positively. Many times he feels hurt because of reality, but he will not run away and he will overcome that difficulty. Even he is a high and self confident type and center his own thought as a main focus, but at the same time he is a kind, cute and polite guy. He certainly is not a mean person. He likes to help people who are in
troubles even he is not asked to. He is the type who feels sorry if you remember bad things he said to you that he had already forgotten,but you did not. Believe him that he is very sorry and give him another chance.
Once he decides to do something, he will put all his mind and energy in it either in his "Work", or "Love".

He like to be the first person to do something. You can see sparkling in his eyes, once he meet a new target or new lover. Once he is in love, he will be
sincere and true till his last breath. This minute he could be real sugar sweet, and later he could also be an icy cold, but do not blame him for that will only chase him away. He could really love someone, but not
a heart broken type for he thinks love is "excitement" and "Love goes on".

If he is quiet not because he is shy, but he is only quietly thinking. If you have a chance to ask his X-girlfriend, she will tell you that he is not a shy or quiet type. If he is really and truly in love with you, he will never lie to you at all. How do you know if he loves you, bet on your faith! Love him and treat him steadily and do not try to find anything to argue with him, he will be with you for sure.

He hate to set fix schedule, and dislike a boring same routine job. He could hardly be on time, and can only keep time if it is complete important and necessary.He does not come late because he forgets, but because he always find other attractions along the way. He is a very good speaker and make a very good politician.

He can easily persuade other people and well presented himself in public, a real charmer. he can write the best seller. When he works he can work like crazy, but after work he can turn on romantic jazzy music and treat you so gently.

He loves to give people advice and normally give a good advice. If you fall for him, you will stay like being trapped in a spider web. He has his own way to win a girl love and affection. He changed many girl friends because he can not clearly separate loving a friend and loving a girl friend. He will check and re-cheek if his match is suitable and compatible with him.

A not so pretty girl with no brain is not his type of woman. If you are not pretty enough, he will not mind talking to you but he does not care to get to know you.Any girls, pretty or ugly can ask for his help, he will be happy to help.

He likes to have a girl friend by getting to know each other. He does not trust anyone but himself

PM Writes about me

2009-09-16T14:29:00.004+05:30

Cody can be your best buddy and talk to you about anything.
He can join all ur activities with the same energy tht u have.
he is a quick wit person and learn new things very fast(uper vaale ne bhi kya fusat se dimaag diya hai ..vaise sahi hai faltu kaam fursat se hi kiye jaate hai hehehe)

Cody can see your work and he can give you good advice...(dimaag jo hai bande ke pass) . he expects a lot n nearly too much.(lucky guy job,girls each n everything usne jo paaya hai )
He has a multiple personality and multiple ideas, so he hates to put them down in written proof. Because he knows what he belief today can be different tomorrow...If he wants to tell u any bad comments, he won't say it straight away, but he will talk to u about many other things n accidentally come to that subject without offending you.Normally he will not lie.

Cody will work hard and once a while take a long rest.
he can get bored and tired with his own surrounding more than at work. he never feel content with his present work, money, or reputations, he will drive to have more.
Don't ask him what is his ultimate contentment for he will not have an answer.
Once you get to know him, he will be a supportive person and always be beside you... he has a beautiful dream and he loves to have someone walk side by side with him, together and equally...

Time is precious for him and if you make him
wait, he will consider that as an insult. He hates to
hear criticism and hates to be criticize. If he is
criticizing other people, then he must be influenced
by other person. He is and he likes to be a
perfectionist. He always think he is doing the right
and appropriate thing , and often he thinks he makes
no mistake. He is a bright guy and could accept
comments if he thinks it can improve himself. He is
the type who well adjusted to make changes.

He will spend money carefully and spent it worthwhile.
He will only extravagant for his personnel pleasure
only. He is quite romantic, a type of guy who can
drive 100 miles just to tell you how much he misses
you. If he does not care about you, he will not even
spent a dime to call you locally.

He hates rough and crude people. His woman has to be
clean and dress well. He inspects any thing in details
beside being a perfectionist, so you could be lying in
your bikini with a perfect figure and he can suddenly
comments you about your big feet. If you gain 2 pounds
, he may comments you are getting too fat. Before
going out with this kind of guy, look at yourself head
to toe in the mirror and ask yourself if you are
really and entirely ready. Unless he dates a model,
then he will have less comments.

He is neat and tidy, so his life always on a schedule,
a fix time to lunch, the same time to go home. He has
well knowledge about food and conscious about
nutrition, so you won't see this guy eating a junk
food, or strange and exotic food for sure.

You will see him in social events or party if only
necessary. He is gifted with acting, so if he says he
can not go out with you because he is sick, then you
will believe him. He is a hard to please when it comes
to what to eat, how to work, what kind of a woman to
date. He is always neat and tidy, even if he is in the army, he will be the cleanest soldier in the camp. He likes to speak properly with no slang. He
hates laziness and lazy people. He always act like a boring mature adults, but getting to know him , you will know he has his own charm.

He always see things clearly, so he is not the type to be blinded by love. He is a kind and cool guy, but if constantly irritate with rudeness, ignorant, or stupidity then he will show you that he is annoyed. People may think he is selfish, because when he says "No", he really means it. Any favor asked , he will help but always in his own limit. The more he see
faults in others, the less he wants people to see his. If you want him to change his faults, try to tell him gently or he could take it as an insult.

He wants love that comes with quality, so he only has a few loves in his life. Woman's trick will not work with him. If he breaks up with a woman, he will also try to avoid all her friends and her environments too. He is very picky and every breaking up, he will be double careful next time.

He can sweep woman with his charm, but he likes to keep his relationship like a friend. He likes a sincere self confident woman, neat and clean, perfect and tidy. A real two "P" , picky and perfectionist person.

You will never see this guy involving in
other people business. He always concern with his own
business. Sometimes he can be talkative, but he will
never give anyone advice if he has not been asked. If
you ask for advice, he will certainly give you one. He
respects elderly and senior, so you will see he is the
type who visit his parents steadily.

He is a slightly shy but also a stubborn person. He
will find many ways to make you happy when you are
with him, till you realize he is the important person
for you. Once he is in the "Power Position", he will
use his power gently. He is a good leader and "Gentleness" is one of his effective method for
exploiting his power. It is although he is born to be
a leader. He never hide his ambition, and he is a
workaholic. he will not take any position that he has
no control. He will work very hard to reach his goal
and satisfaction.

Compliment from his boss or superior are never enough
for him, he want his deserved reward. His deep
insecurity make him reach and collecting valuable
things, and this you may think he is stingy. Actually
he could easily spending money to buy things,
traveling or pay for things that makes him happy and
he think necessary for his need. He care what other
people think of him and want to get good comments or
compliments.

Outside he looks like stone and steel, but inside he
is a fragile person. He will hide and cover up weak
emotion and his sadness in order to maintain and keep
up his "Image".Often, he feels insecure,
even he is serious about his life and his own
surrounding.

This is the man who never hurry to get marry, so
hardly sit back and regret about his marriage later.
If he gets married, he need to be very certain and very
sure. It will take a long time for such decision, so
if you tell him that you are "breaking up" , you
better forget him for good because he is never
coming back.

He likes to hear sweet word and compliment. If he approaches you to ask
you out, do not act too stubborn or fooling around too
much. He will get tired and just disappear. He has to
feel confident when he is around you, so knowing this
fact you should know what to do, right!
If you want him, you have to make him feel like he is
the most important person for you.

When he feels sad, do not leave him alone, but
be very supportive. Kind words and your smile will win
him over, so this strong man will be like a chicken in
your palm.

Even when he is in love, he is still a free wild bird.
He is a sand in your palm, the more you want to hold
it, it will slip out. If you stand and hold it still,
it will stay that way. Don't set the rules and draw a
line for him, he will not stay.

When you are with him, he will think only of you. But
an hour later he could change his mind. He is very
patient with other people, but very impatient with
himself. His world always turning and it will not stop
just because he loves you.

He does not likes to follow conformity, but
always want to search for new ventures, new mystery.
He like to search and analyze people and things. He
will analyze his friends or his girl friend, and once
the mystery is gone, he will search for new puzzle to
solve. He can not easily understand thing, so he will
gradually learning about you till he fills up all his
questions.

He knows so many people ,but he has a few friends. He
looks for quality friends than quantity friends. He
will be close with some friends shortly and move on.
He always feel lonely even surround by many people. He
could create his own little world, and sometimes no
one would understand him.

A man with a conflict personality. He is a cool,
understanding, able to work well.He could shock you as
much as he is able to calm you down when you up set.
He is a free spirit who likes venture.

Infomation Gathering

2009-09-16T10:24:00.003+05:30

This is a post for guys who are interested in Trust building. I believe best way to build trust with your Target is by information gathering. You have to accumulate as much data as possible in least time possible. This gives opportunity to deal with Logistics, parameters that will distract you from your conquest.

Your main aim is to gather as much information as you can about her without asking too many questions. Asking too many questions automatically puts you in a stalker mode. She thinks you are around her for malicious reasons and also prevents you from Seeking Validation mode. Doing small cold reads also helps, generally most girl will drop out lot of information while you are cold reading her.

You can learn basic cold reading by just gathering information about Trends in society.

Now what are best methods for Information gathering?

1. Look at her clothes, clothes of people she hangs out with. Demonstrates how choosy she is and what is her fashion statement.

2. Look at her skin texture, if it is fine and smooth or is it scurvy which is sign of Health on long term. This just literally gives it out. Even best make up cannot make skin texture good. Marks on antecubital (soft skin part on forearm) explains a lot.

3. Does she have any tattoo, piercing etc.? – Indicates adventurous personality who wants to try out something.

4. Are her facial expression always pacified or her expression change constantly and she gets excited very easily?

5. Does she like to share her stories with you or simply nods to whatever you say? While you are sharing something, does she interrupt you or let you finish your story before starting hers? Does she shares anything at all or is just seeking for entertainment or ride?

6. See her mobile phone, is she tech savvy or just prefers cheap old phone.

7. If you trade Facebook or email id and you guys talk online. If she has a problem, instead of trying to explain it out to her. Tell her to download Team viewer and just show it to her. This saves lot of time too, her state does not drop while you trying to explain something and of course you get to see her private information. How clean her computer is, what kind of software she uses, her photos, wallpapers and everything about her computer will speak volumes.
Even her homepage on her browser is some kind of information.

Evolutionary wiring

2009-06-02T11:04:00.001+05:30

Hey,
I was digging through my archives and found interesting link out there. I thought I would share it with you guys.

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Your Nice girl is secretly Brutal Wild

2009-04-04T15:44:00.001+05:30

Its difficult to explain how social value work.

They are totally programmable. We consider certain women totally asexual but actually they are way more horny than you can imagine. She secretly admires porn. Masturbate in certain position of choice. Some girls won't be able to masturbate in bed, they prefer chair. Many times they start panicing when they have blood come out while they masturbate. Just that she is busy preserving her virginity as glorified prize. For her V card is sort of treasure which once taken away will have big implications. I know it can be true in some cases but in broader sense it makes no difference. You can't explain this logically.

I know women who cant sleep at night without thinking of sex and some even masturbate just to fall asleep.Just a random habit,

If you understand difference of lovemaking and meaningless sex it could open your realm to a new horizon.
Sometimes very timid girl can be too wild in bed because it is moment she feels its safe to unleash her hidden self without caring about external segments. She just wants to show her emotional turf to you.she is unusually shy for a reason.

IF you provide her means to feel secure while she can be crazy with herself. When she can experiment while she knows you will provide her security. Security is not protecting her from Physical harm. There are many different ways to provide emotional security too. Even when you are not thinking long term relationship. Holding her hand and keeping her inside you helps too.

I explained a lot of this to my ex. She felt safe about me going out with another girl but she felt hard turmoil when she saw me getting attached to another girl. She felt betrayed not when i was going out with other girls because it meant nothing to me. She was just bothered when other prospect mattered. Lot of her values change based on yours. She cared when I cared.

When you are fine with her getting close to people she feel attracted to she will find same for you. In relationship you have to develop base value on how you will live with your partner. Lot of you cant be as open minded (boundary less in your language). But rules will remain the same. Step out of what has been taught to you and get what is happening in real.

Stop trying to think for the girl. I have seen many of my friends thinking on behalf of the girl. What will she think? I don't think this is right according to her and she is a girl , blah blah. You have to own it up. Stop thinking for her, She has got her own brain. You can steer the direction but still stop thinking on behalf of her. You can be only idiot if you are thinking on behalf of the girl.

Trite between Curiosity and Focus

2009-04-01T11:55:00.000+05:30

I have to Admit although, Reading book about Warren Buffet has got me on totally high ground, I have been vary of reading it fast and I take lot of breaks to digest amount of information given in it. It is magnicifent to understand what he has been doing. Plus reading his book has changed my thought process drastically. It is forcing me to realize power of Focus.

I want to master so many essential fields yet all the pragmatic forces to me concentrate on one Die. I have been reading books from so many wide array of topics and its sort of emblemish that my inner guts keep telling me to push in common direction. I have to make my Goals very precise and efficient to my career.

In your goal, you can change the minions but criteria should remain same. I am in for Network Engineering and I have to take REAL steps to get it handled. I have to push my faculties to a united direction. You have to understand every core of the business. If you earn mastery over your field, You can assert your expertise in more frugal foundation.

Reading Freakonomics gives you distinction that you can add different intrisic to common unbounding element. I always preferred mix card. Currently my best choice is to earnestly mix. I have been having trouble in choosing what kind of MBA is suitable for me. I am not sort of a guy who will fledger in marketing. I don't want to own a firm and run my element around it. I want to be sort of provider to existing services.

I really don't like word processor when I am writing orignal thoughts out. They kind of break my concentration. May be just typing them out and then pasting it on word proccessor for grammar and spell checks help better. Its power of focus that will help.

Now my question is what do you do of unfounding curiosity. May be staying in focus helps, but what do you do of curiosity to learn. Desire to receive information and mix it in the odd. Many times you read a book and its odd that its of no use to you. It has no intrisic value other than giving you new criteria. I read book about Dell and I totally wanted nothing to do with it. It is last company I want to be with .

Focus and Curiosity are both important aspect for Self Development. How do you make gradual interlapse between them so that both work out well in tune for you? There has to been some way to interrelate the both.

I have to promise myself to unearth infinite data I have about networking and go through each of them with utmost sincerity. I should be able to be most promiment guy in field of Network. I want to read few books before I start this path. Its hard to justify to yourself about what you will do in future. Starting in now is very essential to keep any promise. Making your prospect a future (with no specific date) is going to create serious doubts.

I promise myself that I will start reading on topic of Network (includes Mobiles, Tv, Computer or such electronic Gadgets.) and way the can be connected into a single unit. I will have to let go of my curiosity of learning Management in far more details restrospect as of now. I will have to ask myself to back off till moment that I will essentially be using the data.

Priotizing is very essential. I will start studying about network from 20 April. Promise I have to give to myself and make a higher ground on it. There is also enough pile up on my to do list that has to be cleared up. That is process I will have get it done till 20th April.

Time I will have give to myself so that I am not on lag. Balance is important message too.

TV supports Non Socialist Characters

2009-03-10T20:46:00.001+05:30

Let us name few good TV shows about Virtue. House M.D, Dexter, 24, Lost.

What do all of them have in common other than being super hit? Why do people love them so much? What gives them that knack to watch it to watch every episode?

IF you see main character in any of them, they have common characteristic. They are not very social people. They will do whatever it takes to do what they think is right and would go to extreme measure even if it were against the code. They do not care about RULES. They care about RESULTS.

All of them are obsessed with what they do and they are best people in their own respected field. They are so proud about their work that they would not regret worst decision they ever made. They feel annoyed at other people decision if it contradicts their as they are defined expert of the very arena.

They may be great leaders in their respected field. They can lead a very bad team to critical heights. They can be very good sport people and make game giant equalizer. If you see Michael Jordan earlier carrier, lot of peaks came during that duration. However, when he had just two more players added to play simple support, their team went outburst. Scottie Pippen, Grant or Rodman career were failure without Jordan in central. May be they were world-class player in their own might but Michael Leadership made them click.
They have ability to push so hard that party they are pushing may just literally choke. They do not even flitch a little while doing it. They are annoying people to have around. You just feel so manipulated around such personalities that you will laugh at them on screen and feel super annoyed when someone like that comes into your life.

They would pull out of the line moment they see reason to do it. IF you were assumed to do even one of those antics, you will forbid it yet they are super heroes because they have courage to do what is RIGHT. Why are we ready to make them heroes on screen and call them faggots in real life? Do you really want to entertain such an idea?
Further contradicting question is Virtue more important or socialism. Being Socially Elite is more fitting or Virtuous work that gives you feel that you have done what it take to get your JOB done.

I do not care if you say answer is everything in Moderation is right. I am trying to weight the scale. Socialism can kill best capitalist and create scenes where nobody is willing to place bet. While other social cultures promote such an excellent work that it is beyond capacity of single human to complete it.

For first time in history we have, something called Intellectual property and something that needs to be treasured. People are afraid that other people would uproot their bread and butter if their product is being distributed on wide scale and they never get any profit for it. If such keep on happening, we will not see people working in this field for long time. Its proprietary vs. Free Source competition.

Companies like Dell are Perfect Parasite business, which does not have any of personal innovation, but they use other people invented technology for their own profit and remove profit margins from the inventor of the machine. What makes such practices popular?
Ayn Rand book Atlas shrugged gives deep philosophical insight about what is happening and it makes sense on how world is working and how it would end up.

Although I am not supporting Power struggle practices, where big giants can swallow up smalls businesses and eliminate quality factor. I really would like to have good conversation about this topic. What is going on?

Journey of Problem Child to wisdom Part 1

2009-01-30T06:49:00.007+05:30

I am inspired to write this one after reading Alex Blog.
I have always been a Problem child, does not matter in which way but that is my story. Best way my father would define me is “If there is imminent danger somewhere, that’s where you find Cody. He is right in face of the danger.” If there were mountain cliff, I would surely be on edge of that cliff.

My mom would dress me up like a civilized kid and send me to school. I would pull out some sort of prank and I would come home all muddy. Pranks were integral part of my living and had made me isolated in classroom. People liked to stay away from me. I spared nobody. No holds barred.

I was bustling with energy and I needed something to do. I was so hyperactive that if you went slowly, I would get bored and go my old ways to make things interesting for me. I would hear teacher out yet doing something of my own.

You know as kid you are supposed to hold your parents hands while walking. I hated that. I always preferred being left alone and just be running around. I would just pull one finger if I was being scolded and just go looking around in every direction.

I never got direction to unleash my energy. I was not interested in any sports other than cricket. I tried martial arts but I used to prefer having real fights and not just kicking and punching in air. After watching 100s of martial arts movie I understand it now but at that time there was nothing in world that could convince me that my combat skills would improve if I could punch well in air.

I was always big dude, when I would get in fights, I would smack shit out other person. I would fight with 4 to 5 people together and throw all of them away. I would get in fights a lot.

Good part about my school was that we did not have one popular kid on block. Everyone was just equally average. There was not a single group, which girls would chase. There was not a single guy that had multiple girls on rotation. Most people were virgin and only few had sex. Girls who had sex even once were labeled as slut meaning you stay away from her.

For me external influence was so bad that I was one of the girl haters. I would just push all of them away. Like find someone else to talk. I am last person who wants to talk to you. If some guy who would talk to girls was a GAY. If there were some girl standing in front of us, most people would get away from her or stand 10 feet away. I would move girls out. You do not stand in front of me in line. I never follow lines. If I follow, one you are not supposed to stand in front of me. So having that boundary allowed most boys to go on other end of fence.

It went so bad that I thanked my luck everyday that I did not have sister. Having sister sounded such a bad curse to me. Moreover, hearing my friends whining about their sister makes me crack even better.

Suddenly, during 5th grade my parents decided to transfer me to new school. It was a very new experience. I did not have textbooks to study, which was awesome. I loved basic mathematics and did not like science. If that does not sound weird enough I don’t know what shall sound more weird. Now it is opposite, I like science and hate mathematics.

Teachers would give us handouts and lot of comprehensive books to study. We were supposed to issue books from library and we were allowed two books per week. One English one hindi. I never read any of them and just issued them because I was supposed to do it. It was compulsory. There was lot of external activities other than education that I grew fond and there were lot of different sports. We used to have new games and lot of songs to remember. I used to hate drawing but loved music.

Guess what, I was still a problem child. I would end up bending chair legs. I would never do English homework because I did not know any English at all. I could not phrase one sentence properly grammatically and always ended not knowing anything. I had difficult time remembering poems.

I would generally be thrown out of the class. Many times, it was for reasons that I still don’t understand. Some guy comes up to me and challenges me to fight. I just throw him out; he goes to teacher and tells the teacher that I knocked him out. I am like what was that? I didn’t tell you to come and challenge me.

I was so unpopular that hanging out with me would hurt people reputation. They would never hang around me. One of my classmate who I am pretty sure still has attention seeking syndrome and would do anything in her power to get attention from anybody would tag my name with all the girls in class. Boys would tell me that some girl like me and I would be confused about it.

Girl actually tagged me with all girls in my class. It would be written in black on back of every chair that Some Classmate girl loves me. This further alienated girls from talking to me. They would keep lot of distance so that they don’t get tagged thanks to Mystery person on class chair back.

Girls would ask me if I had crush on some girl and then 10 girls would start screaming right away not me. Do not say my name. It further confused me. In addition, they would push harder to know some girl name. I would just randomly say name of some girl who wasn’t present there.

Guess what? New girl would go to Headmistress and complain about me. New lecture is waiting for me. I really didn’t like being lectured about stuff I really didn’t care about.

There was other male classmate who had taken it upon himself to tell all girls that I am having crush on that girl. That further depleted my reputation and drove everyone away. I was suppose to be some sort of cheap guy who was eying every girl out there. People did not want to relate to me in any case.

I did not have very good empathy skills so I ended up being annoying to all my classmates. Teacher would run contest for who would sit next to me. I would get in more trouble with that. Students would have to agree that they like sitting next to me and would end up not working for some people till 8th grade.

There would be periods where lectures would be spent for just complaining about me. They would show plain disliking for me and many times overhype complains to just get to me. They wanted to see me punished.

I had amazing teachers though who actually cared about my progress. They would actually spend time hearing me out and understanding me. They knew where I could be obedient and where I wouldn’t be. I started diverting my energies. I stopped paying attention in the class and would read some book under the desk.

We started having field trips that I wouldn’t be taken to due to some prank I had done. I was always a problem to have around. May be at times I would convince teacher to take me on trip.

During 6th grade we started to have our first field trip over night. It was first time I got to go out with my classmate and stay over with them. That was totally new experience for me. We went to Sanchi for first trip and it was place I had already visited earlier but felt better due to having 26 other classmate having fun together.
It taught me art of sharing and letting go of stuff. Dorm bed were amazing and had springs so we would just end up jumping on it whole time. I preferred to sleep in dark while another classmate feared dark and wanted light. I made a huge issue about it and I half succeeded in getting things done my way.

My elder brother shifting to USA was big change for me. We always shared our room and It was difficult to settle on without him. I had to go through major changes in my habits. I started getting more reserved and stop going out. I started to own everything I couldn't acquire without him. I started to play around computer in way that only crazy nerd can explain. I started learning hacking tricks and stuff.

7th grade was first long trip outside comfort zone. I was the HULK of class and I would help everyone with their luggage. That trip allowed people to come closer to me. I made friends and was popular for while as I was helping everyone with their luggage which they couldn’t carry for themselves. People started talking to me way I wanted them to. For first time in my life girls were being nice to me.

Girls and boys stayed in same room for first time and we shared bathroom too as bathroom for girls was very cold. They couldn’t operate it well. It was hilarious to see boys jumping at night and some guys trying to reserve spot right next to some girl.

I started reading historical comics books that improved my history and then came along harry potter that generated my interest in book reading. I started reading lot of books, which included all the classics available in library. I actually purchased books for first time.

I hated writing notes down Writing would throw me away. My hand writing was a mess and I would write in microscopic size and would write shortest answer possible and hence I would score less than I actually knew. I again was thrown out of class for not writing notes down properly.

Currently I own huge shelf of books that I am going to read over length of time. I want them around forever. I am looking for resources like e-book reader for this purpose. It is such a healthy knack. I was so hyper active in some periods that I knew every story by heart. I started loving literature taught to me.

My hormones started to grow way faster and earlier before time. My height stopped growing way it should. I had to shave first time when I was in 8th grade to look clean. I felt proud when I had my first shave. It marked my day into manhood. But I never had any crush on any girl till my trip to USA. When I came back that’s when I found
out that I actually like some girl.

Watching other boys chasing girls was foreign to me. I just enjoyed watching it. I didn’t have any actual female friends. I do not have any sister either. “Girls” was alien topic for me. Brother talking about protecting sisters still confuses me. I feel sorry for girls with brother as they need to be watched over all times.

Boys want to have girlfriend desperately and can’t digest the fact that their sister is dating some other guy. It makes them feel awkward. I don’t know what is logic or emotion connected to it but it is such a random bias.

To be continued...

Populance and Philosophy

2009-01-29T16:54:00.002+05:30

Over period, I have found that it is difficult for people to digest my ideas. Especially for old people who really can’t keep up with new generation material. Things they fear is so out of their own control and only thing they can do is act miserable about it.

Problem with Philosophy is you tend to offend people personal views. You go against the base belief that they have been brought up with and you pound new structure right in their face. They won’t be able to give you one proper reason why they are right. Best they can come with is you really can’t explain so many natural phenomenon. Well everything related to human emotion is unnatural. Human emotion is 100% socially programmed.

When people fight against some new technology or some product, it can be modified. You can give optimism by sharing positive side of it. There was one era where people that used to fight computers, as it was not the popular thing to do.

“Computer is for nerds”

They really couldn’t comprehend that computer could have had other uses. Now computer is a part of everybody life and people find new ways to decorate their home systems or buy funky looking laptops to make it look pretty. They chase high configuration end without knowing its applicability yet they follow the TREND.

Computer once was just for nerds and people who were involved in its development were called hobbyist. They would gather together and share solution or marvel about possibilities computer really can have. Any application that became popular and mainstream became killer application. In today’s world, Internet is biggest killer application for computers. People buy computer just to surf internet and application generated with it such as multimedia.

POPULANCE by Applicability is the key. If you want to make something popular, just feed it as cool. Even though there are far better applications than apple I pod but having I pod is cool. You have to give people perception that THE NEW THING is cool. Let them build hype around it.

POPULANCE happens with your ideas too. If you feed it as a reform people should do this for XYZ reason, your idea will be trashed and you may end up owning your own new cult at best.

I have my own set of ideas that I want people to understand. I will have to find a method to give it to them. It feels like deception but you just can not sale the product based on logical explanation. You have to give irrational reason to make your product cool and make it desirable just to own it. Summarizing your product objective is “Doing your way makes them cool. “

Iphone will never be able to compete with Nokia phones when it comes to usability but Iphone just looks prettier and people want to lay hands on it. This is what makes Iphone special. It is cool thing and everyone wants to try it. People can’t be and will not be persuaded by logical reason.

Another marketing ploy I would like to highlight is Tata (One of the largest Indian Fortune 500 firm) came up with technically perfect soap. It was perfect for cleaning your body. They had over 3 years of research and every logical reason that you should buy that soap. Strategy failed miserably. Problem with soap was it did not have rinse bubbles. The competitor came with sale point that their soap has rinse bubbles and it was outright bestseller and most desired soap in the market.

Today we see more Tower desktops than flat desktops. Flat desktop is suppose to be better because it allows better ventilation and give faster speed to your processor as it avoids problem of overheating better. Tower desktops are more popular because way they can be designed looks cool and it seems to occupy less space when actually with today’s LCD monitors flat desktop should be more popular.
I have so many examples to give out but I will stop at that.
I have to find new way to explain new philosophy to people around me. Philosophy major problem is it can be explained logically or instilled in a person who is popular and can explain to other people that this is NEW way of doing things. You will have better success and happiness if you follow following guidelines.

There will always be haters and followers. I really have to try not to be bias to people who do not get it. I have compelling problem of trying to explain it to other party. Their perception is not my problem. I just have to develop market that allows ideas to become mainstream.

Problem with dating companies is they have their own following yet people tend to hate it for the reason that they have been brought up in different way which says Community way is the wrong way. They trying to sell community as some sort of CON industry.
People do not understand Natural bias. Example would be opposite sex deception.

A Man is on phone screaming at person at other end and is in very bad mood. Suddenly hot woman shows up in front of him and ask him something, you can bet he will be showing up politest behavior you seen from that person. He is not trying to sell something but it is just natural to him. I don’t care if he is married or is not going to chase that woman. Just perception that woman is hot is going to slow him down to her. Maybe he will either act polite to person on phone after woman leaves and he may go back to his old ways. That is the moment that has no logical explanation but emotionally only.

POPULANCE is structured with help of such a natural bias. This is the reason you see famous faces or super hot models on television ads or even graphical ones. Even ads that projects Nerd or Average person or family is trying to sell that this “new thing” is going to make him more popular and better stated than Good looking or Social model or cool clique.

Taking Break

2009-01-26T10:01:00.002+05:30

Time has arrived where I want to have some rejuvenation. Most of the time I spend is either I am online doing something or I am out. You live very fast paced life and you lose so much power. You lose ability to think straight.

What I prefer to do is unplug myself from Internet. Lose connection with all the people you know and step into unknown. New realms allow me to find new world and new me. I strive on spiritual rehabilitation.

I suggest everyone should just unplug whatever you are doing and go on project that is something totally different.

Know thy self as they say. Take out time and get your health updated. I don't care if you say that my health is just fine. Unplug it for a while and see how fatigue your system is. I just realized I am so tired that I really can't put up doing anything without feeling bored.

I am one of the most hyperactive person you would have known.

Future Projection 2

2009-01-09T21:04:00.004+05:30

For Part 1 click here

I know I should not be writing this now but I couldn’t help myself when there were so many thoughts flowing through my head. I know very bad time management skills.

I just finished watching CES 2009 and I am so proud to say that future is going towards model I am trying to create. I will hope that my model is complete in time while this technology is in creation and I am first person to create that model and not some other person. But even if someone succeeds I am go to trade my model in it and Add more subtle features to it. It will really help my research on creating simulating experience that allows unitizing your data.

Last 2 decades have been about creating platform for you to trade information and interact with them. Industry has created Personal Computers and then lot of application that were integrated over the time. We allowed our computers to Store information in Text, Audio and Graphics. (Multimedia in short). We created a preferred medium to load our data.

Example, We have Ipod/Mp3 Players for our audio/video feed. We have mobile for sharing information. You have gaming stations to have game structured in your way and your goals you want to achieve. There are 1000s of other example that I really won’t write about.
I am not very good student of Computer graphics and Multimedia. But I am understanding its capacity to generate new fields for us. This is what I have been sharing with my friends: The Today’s technology has come to overlap and now it will go away or go defunct or default. New platforms will be created on top of it.

Last decade and half, we created internet, computers and more methods to communicate information. Now we will create a method that will be a default and share media on same medium. We will require gigantic storage capacity and some way to back it up all in one place.

Hard drive technology isn’t capable of doing all that. I am not sure about holographic technology. We need to have multiple devices that have their own storage capacity yet they will be able to trade their own content to each other seamlessly. Surface computing is just one model of how things will be. There will have to be lot more platforms that will have to come and allow easy and high-speed data transfers between object.

There will be two sectors that will have to come up, one sector that is going to Integrate all data in one medium and another sector that will allow separate mediums that will allow generation of better data outputs. We are not having very high quality outputs coming out from lot of BIG NAME INDUSTRIES. Seagate cut short its warranty from 5 years to 3 years due to quality output.

We have to create better technology that allows more efficiency than degrading. Seagate should find a way that It can allow 10 year warranty periods. Technology is becoming so complex but there is no default standard that will define how it should progress. We need to create default standards for technology to grow up.

Free Software movement isn’t very successful for the reason that it doesn’t make standards on which things will be built. Some computers prefer Very strong security while other platforms prefer way more interactivity. We will have to have industry giants coming in one place and define minimum standards be defined on which future Platform may build.

We also will have to build a method that allows old technology integrate in new one without any effort. I should be able to use my old CD data or document I am writing right now in 2025 without me actually working hard to migrate all my data and do it all manually. Of course we will have to build way better hardware devices that will allow far more complex coding of software and operating system.
It is so clear that hard drive development is coming to end. Our Pentium number isn’t increasing anymore. We are rather having our core number increasing up until certain quantative figure. Then we will have new method may be based on some nano-technology that will allow way faster interaction.

Operating system will have to build one more layer between kernel and user that will just manage storage level issues. My response time should not slow down when I load up my desktop with 200 applications running at same instance. Future is having 200 applications running together to allow better simulation. Just in case you didn’t notice your process value has increased 3 folds in last 10 years. See your task manager how many processes your system is trying to run at same time. Plus you have gadgets that have their own function on your desktop that takes its own space to work.
We will have lot more effort on Virtual Machines and Virtual memory interaction. Cache memory has to find stronger Outsets.

Some people say that we are seeing end of IT sector and lot of software programmers are unemployed now. Well when newer platforms arrive in market there will be new boom and we will require programmers who can build very complex code and with lot of complex mathematics. May be IT professional will have to go school again and re learn new languages. Currently .net and Matlab programmers see lot of code created in that language but for me those languages will dwindle down over period or they become defunct.

We need to have programming language that is based on Natural Language Processing. I should be able to speak out my language and tell computer my needs and it shall know how to code that information and build algorithm on itself. Have a look at Kodu demo. That is something I am anticipating. My kids creating their own Game and play it way they like it and challenging other with their respective creation. Animation industry can see lot of creation based on such application.

In short, I am trying to say we are building very new generation of technology and lot of education will recycle over period. Education system will have splatter out and build new way to educate new generation. You just cannot teach same syllabus to all kids. One kid cannot and will not be master of all fields. May be we will have to choose our career option earlier. In our graduation, we will have to concentrate on more platforms than give same syllabus to all the student and making those graduates.

Graduation degree should be respective enough to enroll student into career role rather than education level of it. Student with more academic merits based on degree is not the idea we want to build our society on We rather want to have same degree spreading more context and allowing immediate employment.

Diploma courses allow that Medium to take place. Exams like MCSE and CCNP allow that level of education I am talking about and immediate employment on merit of student. Currently 80 % of information I am gathering during my graduate will be useless when I come to mainstream.

To be continued…

Personalities that turn me off

2009-01-05T12:30:00.002+05:30

When I meet certain type of personalities, I just turn off. I just try to get out of there to save my life. It’s so suffocating.
Such personalities include:

1. Fakers – People who tried to act what they aren’t or they try to show emotion that doesn’t exist you just know it right there. I see those people sweet-talking you and then backbiting on your back or they just run away from you. Just because they are being polite to you doesn’t mean they want you around.
Meet the girl who you like but she always ends up far away from where you started. If you try to go near her, she finds a way to remove herself from there yet when you talk to her, she talks like you are really amazing and she is just being very busy. I just prefer being told to stay away from them.

2. No personality- I don’t care what your merits are if you can’t hold up good conversation for 15 minutes or are not able to say anything about you or say some story. You know you are in wrong foot. If I share a story or some insight and you tell me you can’t really think of something to say or you think Its making sense but you are totally new to it. I know I got to run. Lot of girls really love me being there and just holding one side conversation full time and they can just stare around. Even If she is giving me indicator of interest, I just don’t want her. She is just a parasite.

3. Shy or overtly protected – Girls who are totally fed on parents structure of belief and are full of crap without understanding why and for what reason all of that exist. They really have no life of their own. Even girls coming from small town trying to fit in big city with her Core Values (which she thinks is a core value instead of core belief.) If you really can’t adapt chances are you are going to be hostile and may be you will find a guy who is super chode that suits your standards. You are definitely not girlfriend material unless boy is desperate and sees you for just how good you look. If you adapt and gain firsthand experience about what happening with you, you stand better chance.

4. Non-listener – They would argue their life on some topic yet they would fail to give you good solid example of what they saying. They just want to feel secure that whatever they have been taught is the way life is and there exist no other structure. You tell them to just give you one solid reason to believe what they are saying , they will definitely fail.

5. Double standards – This is definitely for boys too. Most of the people have double standards about everything. If girl talks to them, she is a slut and if she is not paying any attention to them, they have to try hard to impress her, and then it works, she is very different. You think she is smart and not like other girls. Keep your trash with yourself dude. I do not believe in theory of special one at least yet. She is just a girl like others. Same goes with girls, if she won’t do something in courtship and expects guy to do everything for her. AVOID HER AT ANY CIRCUMSTANCES. If girl says just because you are my boyfriend you are suppose to pay everything I want and that makes you good boyfriend, you surely are with GOLD-Digger.

6. Taggers – If you talking to person of opposite sex and you got strong rapport, you end up being teased about you as couple and everything in world should now start from that girl and end with her. Please just stand 10 feet away from me. I like that humor sometimes but then I find it really off deal. Same with girls, If they see you talking to other girl it is really not time to start running rumor mills and please don’t do that unless you have got really solid information.

7. Attention seeking syndrome – Everything they do is just for “Wanting headlights on them” is crazy. Amount of stuff they do just to get attention is crazy. I don’t care if you are super hot. You having low self-esteem is good enough to destroy your standing in playoff. You are at best a timepass or part of my jokes to other friends.

Note:
Proprietary Vs. Socialism

I am so not sure about this one. I will write another post about this with pros and cons on both end. This is lethargic argument which will tease every generation forever. Reading Ayn Rand gives me Respect for Proprietary world while I really do accept radical idea of collectivism too.

Effect of naturally charismatic personality

2008-12-09T11:01:00.005+05:30

Guru comes in the scene. He walks with his confidence. He has his stuff in built in his head, as a matrix plugged in his head. He was in unknown surrounding yet he behaved as if he owned it. He was Neo of Social World.

It was amazing to see his fluidity. Water swarming the ocean. Guys, like me just interact with one person at a time. He talks to everyone in the given period. It was like watching round robin scheduling in Human form. Everyone feels attended. Boyfriends are ready to drop ditch their gf just to talk to that guy. Girls do not care if they are under tight scrutiny of their possessive over protective jealous bf and it is wrong time to talk to that guy.

You know he is true leader right there. This is an Original effect of people who work on their personality. It is spiritual change you
see it. I don’t think he was always like this. Guru was just chump like I was but now he does it as it was in him by birth. That is the art of practice.

I have to admit, I am his greatest fan. I understand what is going on right in front of my eyes. Other is passive viewers in amazement of the code. I am Cody who can read the moving code. Its perplexing, how efficient the code is, It so simple yet so intriguing.

TRUE CHARISMATIC PERSONALITY I WANT TO HAVE. The true bliss.

Ability to do what it take. Close the deal when it is supposed to be closed. Stepping out closed wall and finishing what I really want to do.

Social Conditioning on food habits

2008-12-09T08:34:00.002+05:30

Last few days I had two major insights. I am going to post about them separately.

One was when I was with my family. I just realized how far I have moved from being just Desi Guy. It is so hard to relate with the facts that they judge everything out there. Being non- judgmental about basic things in life puts me very clear of my head. I do not have to think of things that I really do not care about.

Lot of it is about social conditioning. I have pushed myself so beyond those initial barriers that many people find very objectionable.

Biggest example:
I used to judge people who drink alcohol or smoke are bad people. They are wrong kind of company and we should not hang out with those people. That is so not true.

Of course, if you try to smoke in my face, chances are you will get a kick out of it. If you are too drunk to walk straight, I feel sorry for you. If you can’t control your eating habits, you don’t respect yourself. But that is a separate issue.

Reason we consider alcohol or smoking bad is that they are unhealthy in some way. In addition, we judge that but we do not judge people who have super unhealthy diet munching pizza and burgers without any stop. What about that? Why people with bad diet not be considered as bad people. They are equally bad. At least in my equation.

I just told my cousin that I understand she considers me as a bad guy. But that’s okay. I really understand that what she is being fed is bulk of ideas to keep her away from all that. She considers hanging out with boys is bad. Spending time with opposite sex in alone is strictly not ok. I understand where all that is coming from. We have to get past of such objectivism. We have to move beyond basic fragility. On the other hand, we would be stuck in our small world, which is so small. Anything new to that world would feel like our bubble bursting.

You will try to run to your safety. You will be afraid to change. You have to understand reason of why you being fed with such ideas and then act upon it rather than being just carbon of what your parents taught you. I am so against such rationalization.

Robbing the Self of Victory

2008-11-29T15:25:00.002+05:30

I always make this mistake. I just end up having lack of resources turning me in to super blaze. I need to make my own way of life. Instead of throwing out tantrums, it is time to take decisions and act on it. Penny bull will not work.

Any sort of irregularities makes me go in my head. I have habit to do whatever it takes to get things on foot where I want it. I am going to have all sorts of solutions about it. Only desperation times I know it is not suitable for me puts me on back foot.
You do not have to believe in anyone word. People have habit of living in mediocrity. I am not going to accept that. I have to choose what is best for me and then act on it.

I always try to lose my weight and dickheads keep trying to feed me oily food. It is not going to work. Life is about me, I cannot give excuses for someone else mistakes. I have to take my actions to stop it. You see oily food, just say straight no. No amount of persuasion shall help it. You have to have your own code to live by.
I was just reading my conversation with my ex and I am just shocked amount of wrong decisions I end up taking in my fragile moments. I did that mistake because I thought I had it in me to change someone decision. It is just so natural for me to push boundaries so hard that weaker person will have no option but comply. I just push it right in the face.

For those clueless like me, I will give you this analogy:
If you are trying to break into chamber door guarding crystal glasses, you can only push the chamber door so much that it does not explode the crystal. You have to know when you hit the sweet spot. Otherwise, you will end up doing double work and get no result at all.

Biggest shock came for me when I realized that I have achieved what I wanted to and I am on extreme side of it. I thought I did not have it but I have that ability in extreme quantities and I have to tone it down. Manipulation is going to make people feel frustrated. I always expect favor for favor. I have my own set of way manipulating into what I want, it is as if I am walking example of Law of Powers. Something I wanted to do but not this way. I have to find a way that makes me more of a leader and less of Powerful Protagonist.

Dealing with Information overload

2008-11-14T06:55:00.003+05:30

I am one of those people who spend a lot of time on Internet. I have access to unlimited material. Every day I encounter tons of documentaries that I would be interested in watching. Data flows in megs and gigs. I can safely qualify myself as internet addict.

Day in - Day out I am connected to IRC, Multiple Forums on various topics. Ofcourse this has drawback too. Although I am becoming more knowledgeable person, I lack at productivity. Knowledge is such an addiction that you just keep wanting to have it at your fingertips. Thank you Mr. Bill Gates for making me interested in such information flow.

Internet is a tool where when you utilize your time well, you have results that are better than most people around you. You have access to content which people can only dream of. You feel more powerful than any gallant around you does.

My post is about what to do of the information overload that you face. Every minute of my life is spent in getting more and more information at finger tips. Naturally I lose out so much too. I can’t remember most of the stuff and I have canny habit that I don’t read same book twice. I know I have to do that again. I will have to read all my material again.

Old Information Vs New information battle:

It is up to me to choose which I want to use. You have to let go of material that you won’t use. I don’t care who told you that Knowledge in any form is useful in some period of your life. Trust me it is not. This is 21st century and now it is not about getting knowledge. Act up on information that you have. Use it better than anyone around you does. Some say that there is old saying of “… ” but lot of it does not apply any more. Time has changed so much that you are on other riverbank. You need new phrases and new attitude to develop to marvel new century.

Computers have made your life way more easy and workable than you can actually get at it. You are crazy person who will never be able to use your computer to its potential limit yet you want faster machines, better engines, Slicker technology and its going to be at your doorstep.

Old battles were who has more power. New battle is who has more information. People who had money ruled Last century, this century is for people who have information. People with better information will make better money than people with higher political power. School bully will be at mercy of school nerd who can do far more damage than just beating someone up.

They say, “With money comes the power!” Think about it. Who has more power? Person who is solidly powerful and is at hackers’ mercy that his information falsified and all his money can be removed in few clicks or Person who can make those few clicks. Of course, there is greater power when such clickers are at doorstep working for you. What do people fear more their computers hacked or terrorism?

I know so many women find Nerds very unattractive. I know How I have deployed technology in a way that women feel freaked out (you have more information about her than she herself has) or made them utterly comfortable that you do understand them. They should relax.

This post isn’t about women finding nerds attractive or unattractive. This post is about utilization of information. We have to make sure that we are in presence of information that will benefit us and not waste our time. It is about choosing right type of information. Right now internet has over 50,000 years of video loaded on it. Do you think you should be watching it all? Idea right now is choosing.

Time Management is becoming more and more a key to live better life. I am working on that and getting more productive results.

Breaking barriers again part 3

2008-10-24T22:20:00.005+05:30

23/10

Just the day began.

2 awesome set. Vibed well. I am sure I will get to see her soon.

CLAW always WIns!

Lot of action needs to become default. I know so much of it and yet don't know how to implement it all as auto thing in my head. Practice LOL!

How many times do you see perfection of art in front of you?

I was Humbled by GURU. He isn't very positive on his security. Only lack I see in his art. Otherwise, He is like Picasso of this world. I have never seen finer execution of the GAME with my wide open eyes.

Every night that I end up staying up with him, is night I treasure the most. They motivate me to become my best self. I don't know what he thinks about me as a student but I am so sure for myself that one day he will proudly say that I was his best protege`.

How many times have you had in your life had a chance to touch IDEAL and see how it looks like. You see what you want to become and you see all maps around it clear. Someone right before you went and figured it just for you and gives you the platter.

Like Someone tested all the good and bad just for you. Cuts off years of your confusion. You can see crystal clear image of your life. A simple outlined map that you have to use. Wow!

How many people are lucky enough to have Michael Jordan as thier best friend and Michael teaching them everything they need to know right there and then. You just have to follow the same drill. Whenever you get stuck, you have him just to put new plate in front of you to chew from.

He gives me so much mental drill. I may not be best student to teach new skills to as I ask too many questions and at wrong time. It takes lot of time to argue what I have learnt and tell me THE NEW THING is better option. GURU gives me that exact thing. I think thats the exact reason why I bond with him more than most people in my life.

I really can't thank him with anything that I have right now. Hope future gives me chance to make it even.

I am soon trying to co -ordinate such Flawless Ecosystem in my world. Steps I have taken or See myself taking:

1. Started healthy eating and becoming fit.
2. Taking care of personal hygiene
3. Starting to communicate with lot of people in different areas who give same boost.
4. Trying options that might just become steady path for my success.

Negation:
1. I don't have set of immediate steps which I can apply. Troubles I have to deal with are more difficult than obvious answer can do. Meaning, I am a part of bad eco System right now.

2. I need to figure way to accept art that I really like idea of mastering.

3. Why do I stop myself from things I want to have. Why do I do so many obvious fuck up which I shouldn't.

Self Notes:

1. Text Messaging incident. Danger to stay off.
2. Set 2 - Crown/ palace role play.
3. Notes of MV to be referred.

Some random notes:

1. Victoria Secret's Garmets are made up of Cow Milk's soya to provide top quality comfort in clothing and its natural.

Maybe something to look about for men's wear.

2. Breast are attractive and makes many head turn are reason as they look so much like bull's eye to men. Never knew such analysis existed. Interesting note!

Breaking Barriers Again Part 2

2008-10-24T22:19:00.002+05:30

22/10

This was the happening day for me. Real Happening day where I felt social and could talk.

It was normal day with great break throughs. Technology is always mincing at me. I see few gadgets and I feel sparkly inside to learn new shit. This got to be mine.

Sorry for me, I am not the one who can buy off all the gadgets I love.

It was time to Trust your wingman. I have blind faith in my Wingman. Whatever he does is for my good. I don't care if I make fool of myself in front of him. I Just don't trust my ability when I see him at the work.

Avatar times:

I was acting like a guy who just landed from Los Angeles and had this real nice accent.

Set 1:

I was so nervous that I stood at one place, waiting for words to spurge out of my mouth.. SHIT ME! Didn't happen.

Set 2;

I started mumbling words.. Speaking too fast to get go.

Set 3:

Took the groove, Started interacting to guys and people around me.

RHYTHM! Thats what music is about.

Set ALL:

I was acting NRI, not knowing local language, opening People who didn't know English and acting like it was me. Things started getting funny and it was awesome.

I was feeling amazing.

I was opening everything on street and made no sense. It was funny MR. Guru making me do that.

Last Set:

This was the time of night. 2 girls are in total state. They are having fun running around.

Mr.Guru opens the set. Lot of one liners dropping around. It was really awesome.

Girl Revealing so much stuff about herself. But she won't give her number. I was having fun too. Hi5 , connecting and what not shit.. Hilarious set for sure. Just didn't want to push for lay. But it was all good.

Just back to groove.

Breaking Barriers Again part 1

2008-10-24T16:29:00.002+05:30

I have seen so many new things in My short travel to my Old Favorite Place Mumbai. Just accept it, Travelling horizons (even old ones in new ways) can allow you to gain a lot of insights.

My head goes over so much information that I don't know how much of it that I remember.

21/10

I realized that I have started becoming too technical to speak in normal terms. I need to get better descriptions. I was talking about Damn Video Analogy about women and it sounded complicated. Sorry, Mr. RussianWing Had to deal with that shit.

Logic:

All Women have some sort of fantasies in thier head. All of them are like perfect condition video with highest definition possible video.

Good part is that it leaves many as soon as they stop thinking about it.
Bad part is when they think about you, Your attraction value can change right off the bait. Something that I learnt hard way.

For guys seeking Relationship:

Those videos are stored in random manner and this world gives you tape on how to play it. All guys try to make that tape like its singular and have to be played in some order.

eg. Scene by Scene

1. Meet a girl.
2. Try to impress her.
3. Ask her on date.
4. Take her to some good place for dining or whatever you do.
5. Make sure you are always on her good side.
6. Day 2 decisions
7. Mating and Sex may or may not happen.

But you see, For women it doesn't play out that way. They just think it should be in stored in that pattern which isn't the right answer. What they fantasize about isn't in the same order or even remotely close. It doesn't take nuclear science expert to tell you that if you play out any of the women fantasy in right way, Your chances are way better than any competitor or any of her "LOOK ALIKE PERFECT SUITOR!"

What you have to do is, Play out those fantasies in way you want it. Its like a book with index. Its like dictionary. You don't have to read it alphabetical order. You can just learn any word without going in the order. Though you have to scorch around. If you want to play Sex fantasy, You need to know where exactly to click. And that is what whole mating game is about.

If you think I am not clear enough, kindly ask me to put up a better description and what you don't get it.

I was part of one of Set, I realized I was so nervous that I couldn't carry out proper conversation. My GURU was doing it all. I just asked few petty questions. This is what happens to you when you go out after millenium. You have to have your shit together.

Misc DayNotes:

Was unusual day for me. Watching Busiest places in Mumbai totally empty thanks to civilian Unrest and MNC people burning local properties. I didn't get to watch much violence with my eyes but I was right there to see after effects of it.

Anyone who has lived there, This statement is enough:
"I was at Dadar Station, and I was only guy in the local train compartment travelling!"

Yeah! I was definately scared.

No taxi and walking around a lot in empty streets where you see guys sleeping on footpath and lot of drunk people. But I am happy that I saw something I've never seen before.

My Action:

I am going to try my best to move to place where I can build up persona around life I want. I need new place to start new persona and test the water.

I am going to start life in total new place where I don't have option of failing. Right now I can afford to fail and thats not where I want to be at.

As they say : "For ultimate success you need to make sure that you have no resort to fall back from your path."

You don't have option. Its do or die. Get rich or Die Tryin!

Future Projection 1

2008-10-01T14:43:00.004+05:30

There is a funny pattern emerging when I think deep into future. I am trying to understand how a process is being formed. What will future look like? What kind of technology we will be using and how they will affect our lives?

How will holographic memory change our storage capacity? How will optical computing and Relationonal Object based computing build our technology? How every electronic gadget will be able to communicate with other and tell each other to execute a function with some sort counter or manual automation.

Think about it. We already have video conferencing phones. Now think about 3D holographic video conferencing phones? I can actually call you and see you standing like a real person in front of me. Ofcourse people who need privacy can keep it off but those who want to talk face to face with thier device.

May be you can tell me how it will affect your dating lives.

I loved Harry Potter technologies. How will you deal with content of your life? Some sort of pensieve that hold your every memory. You can execute every function based on your attached memory. Students able to score 100% in thier written exams. When information will be easily be storable with in you in some way. What kind of skills would you want to give time to? May be learn Kung fu or spend time on your favorite sport.

I want to get more firmer and stronger personality. I have seen ideal of that world. I am not pushing myself hard enough to reach there. Its too external. I think moving to different city will help those dreams. I am not too sure. I am not giving excuses.

When I deal with people having no thinking power or someone who center thier life on emotions and use no logic. It always turns into a deal breaker. DUH ! Cody, women love Emotions and HATE LOGIC. I don't want to be another SISSY in there. I just want to deal with women who can intrigue me. They should be able to share stories. Thats the connecting point. I don't want to entertain unless they entertain me. Or I will end up fusing them.

WEIRDO!!

Our lives need a blueprint to work on. Our thoughts are more clear and hold more affinity when we know how we want structure to be. Yeah may be goal planning or whatever is required. I don't want post about that. I won't type in what I don't see myself doing it.

Note:

I am going to build my to-do list. And execute my task on it. I dont know how to create a list with different dead lines. I don't like paper to-do so I want some application that will deal with such. May be in the end I will end up building it for myself.

Anyways, I see everything works great when it makes upto some pattern. Building your home,city or your best Pick Up isn't possible without a pattern. You have to know specific set of boundaries or steps you need to execute to achieve some goal.

We will also require Future projection for it. I know most of us who try to build something end up fantasizing too fast too early. Either we don't have so much technology or we can't predict loops which will get us caught into a haywire. Even best planners can't plan loopholes. I am not being negative. I am just seeing a pattern that always happens.

How many people can claim thier lives moves way they think? I don't think so. You are a human. You will fall sick, you will over think or be reckless/careless. Its going to happen.

I would say,
PLAN YOUR PATH not Every STEP OF PATH.
See a destination in a map where you want to travel. Define means you will use to reach the destination. What kind of preparation you will need. But don't plan how every step is going to be.

Power of Now... I still need to read that book. But I like the idea of understanding the future and in some way building it in a way I want because I was able to understand in past how its going to be.

Thats how every big giant company you see is working. Read Biographies of Guys like Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Google , Amazon. You will understand how they tried to deal with current with respect to future and not be too fool-hardy about it. I am not sure which side I am on. Noone can be. Not even the best guys.

Best way to know it! USE YOUR DAMN IDEAS. IMPLEMENT THEM RIGHT NOW. Don't implement them because other needs your idea. Implement them because you will have major gain from it. Money may not BE IT

30 days Positivity challenge

2008-09-30T23:59:00.003+05:30

I am writing this entry as beginning and end of a challenge.

I took a great motivation to get into healthy shape. After few ups & down I managed to get fit. Now I will work towards Flexibility and maintaining my fitness. For Fitness I got myself DVD of Shaolin Workout. I have always been big fan of Shaolin movies. So being able to do even 5% of it would be great achievement for me.

Check out the vids of my dvd.

So this is End of One challenge.

Challenge #2 :
Reattach myself to Tech world. I spent too much time reading Pick up books and newsletter. Now most of them just reside my inbox if I like them or I have unsuscribed to it. I lost track of subject in which I considered myself as PIONEER.

So I have started reading tons of whitepapers and magazine about latest updates in technology world and how things work. Wikipedia is surely awesome source.

I have worked really hard to catch up with latest happening

Now Start of new Challenge and its rules. This isn't going to be a piece of cake. I will have to work really hard. I think this is the best time to work on my life. I have so much stuff to do. Everything in life has started to make more sense and working itself out.

New challenge is 30 days POSITIVITY Challenge.
What is this 30 days challenge? What are the ground rules? Why is it needed? What are the deeper questions about such a challenge?

In 30 days, I am not suppose to think ill of anybody or about anything. I have to appreciate everything. I can't whine or bitch. I can't obsess over something that I didn't get fairly or something that didn't work out. Instead I have to ask myself now what shall I do. What is best Positive thing I can do about this situation.

I will permit myself 3 mistakes in first 10 days, after that I wont allow any more mistakes. I have to get into mindset where I consiously reframe the question. I will have to do that for atleast 10 days.

After 10th day, I am not allowed to make mistakes. Otherwise I would never achieve full freedom from NEGATION.

What if I exceed 3 mistakes?

I will have to restart the challenge. Doesn't matter if I am on day 10. Doesn't matter if its excusable mistake. I will start from Ground Zero. My time limit is getting this done max by February. I know I will make mistakes but I have to keep faith in myself and be more consious about self. It should be Unconsious Competence.

Why its needed?

I really have no strong answer. Best I can say is I read great books which tells me to do it. See the change after I have accomplished it. So I will write that post too. I will keep updating my blog about challenge atleast once a week. If you want references to books I am reading, You may ask so.

Deeper roots:

1. I should be more real and not make it fool - hardy challenge I have to stick to reality when I see a problem. I shouldn't avoid the problem as part of Positive challenge. It is by default solving the problem.

2. Even when solving problem, I shouldn't get too cynical.

3. Understand difference in reality and pessimism.

Random Rumble

2008-08-31T18:02:00.000+05:30

Thoughts come to my head and roll out because I am too lazy to write them.

Today I sit and write it because I want to capture them.

My biggest Fear right now is not able to control myself. I feel too powerful to let loose. I feel like a champ and loser has found a perfect mix in one body.

I am a champ, an overachiever. I am enough! I have ideas to get things done. My working efficiency has increase 10x. When I study something, either I know what is going on about it or I have no clue about it and I drop it at there itself and move to finish something which will get task done. Focus is on the goal and not menial things in middle.

As there was story about sparta. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pyrrhus_of_Epirus

Every Victory is a Pyrrhus victory.

I just realized, I am too afraid to be proved wrong. This fucks up lot of my personal deal. I always feel guy that I am guy with proper direction. I have to accept it when I am wrong. I have to stop seeking validation from myself too. I don't need validation from other to prove my existence but I need it from me. Its Ego Bash that I have to live up to my own standards. CHILL!!! Easy.. Don't be too up... Relax. Enjoy petty things in life.

Thanks to Tyler, I have stopped passive watching. No more TV, no more channel surfing. Just doing what you ought to. But then there is fun factor that I miss a lot. I dont feel like having fun in my city. I just want to escape to Larger Metros where I can go out and do whatever I want. Unleash the GLORY!
Mediocrity makes me go uneasy.. Excellence is what I strive for yet I have to learn to accept mediocrity exists everywhere.

If you want to be loved by one and all. You have to give them Altruism, Greed, Envy and Fear. All in right proportions. You should be master of it all.

I like Ayn Rand characters but they are fucked up in thier own right. They can't adapt thier roles. They don't have it in them to rise to where they can channel flow in thier direction. You have to have it with in you to make things flow. Individualism Vs Communism is not core. It throws you off the benchmark.

Every step in my life is so methodically planned yet so random. Its weird headspace. When I am alone, I dont fear loneliness yet when I am in a social setting, sitting alone makes me uneasy. My standards are too high for people to attain.

I would soon post up my little key notes that I gained with my interaction with other people.

Reality

2008-08-02T15:07:00.003+05:30

You learn 1000s of things
how do you know you are learning right thing?
Dont try to defend anything
Just flow like water.

Biggest epiphany I had is:

Humans have approximately 120,000 thoughts per day, and most are the same as yesterday, and tat is 80% of thoughts.

Have you ever considered that you are NOT your thoughts? What would it be like to not take your thoughts so seriously? What if they are not you and simply a collection of things you heard or absorbed over your lifetime that have no real bearing on reality? What if you are a magnificent BEING behind those thoughts?

Each & every thing you think is someway related to the surrounding. Everything you have done is part of some pattern. Either you are fighting the pattern or being with the pattern. In some way or other we are still part of same blueprint and we are still labelling no matter how aloof we become.

Some people say that they don't know how to describe something. What actually is happening is that they are having mental burps. You really can't think in different manner than what your vocabulary supports. You can feel something different but THINKING what isn't in your vocabulary isn't technically possible.

Your Vocabulary is factor that decides your belief system and how you present yourself to the world. How you see the world and how you act.

As Ayn Rand would say EIther you are Second hander or Primary Mover. Ofcourse she is bit extreme but that is the basic concept. Your Mind decides what your eyes sees.

A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.

Our lives are not determined by what happens to us but by how we react to what happens, not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events, and outcomes. It is a catalyst, a spark that creates extraordinary result.

Links

2008-08-02T14:50:00.002+05:30

Some Good articles to read

Happy Relationship:

Happy Marriage

Happy Couples

Ayn Rand VS. Chuck Palahniuk

2008-07-31T16:40:00.004+05:30

Hey,

I know I have been getting on habits of going away and coming with promise that I will finally write. But somehow I manage to go away once again

This was one of the best thing I ever done to myself. I read Ayn Rand and Chuck Palahniuk back to back. There was so much commonality in what they depicted as ideal person. Both are extreme in thier own rights.

Some distinction and solutions:

Ayn Rand:

She makes her ideal characters super strong and they fight against the world which has wrong philosophy. World that wants to destroy all good because they don't have power to understand the newness. Consumers can't accept Creators on outrageous Idea. Then there is another person who is fighting to destroy what good has already been created because they don't want FAKE WORLD to consume something so ideal.

Why Ayn Rand does that, I don't know!

She in a way promotes Unsocialable, too distinct characters but on other hand she doesn't want them to produce the best they could just because people won't accept it. I don't know how this works. Why would someone give up a chance on doing what they could do the best and then admire themselves for the achievement. If they didnt achieve what was so good what would be difference between them and people who think too highly of themselves.

Some of her best Ideas will be posted in other post.

Ayn Rand on one direction comes across as someone who is very open minded but on other end she is very close minded to her own philosophy. Anyways Her books gives you chance to think differently.

Now I know why someone who has read the book won't gift this book to me.

Chuck Palahniuk:

He makes his characters Super strong. They achieve Zen through SELF DESTRUCTION. They destroy themselves to a level where they are free of worldly ideals.
They destroy themselves so bad that there is no way outer world could do anything to do them. They have no fear to be destroyed, What weapon does other person has when person could do more destruction to himself.

His characters are as outcast as Ayn Rand's. They aren't accepted by general society for good they can do. But they take revenge in a way by destroying all good around them. Bringing themselves to the cycle where there is no way someone can point or critic themselves. They are too aghast by the horrors CHARACTERS have floundered.

Gives you feeling of Uh huh... WTF Just happened? This isn't sane, and that is purpose of his right. Accepting insanity as sanity because the mixture of both is the ideal statement.

My Ideas

"Kites rise highest against the wind"

It means that POPULARITY comes to you when you go against the generality and earn a fortune, You don't earn popularity by sticking to the wind and trying to "FIT IN". It is about defeating the obstacles to reach the sky.

Don't brag about obstacles but let it come as you defeated them naturally and by the gracious easy method. That is how world will feel your power and talent.

My mate ROCKSTAR wrote

"If you want to be loved, you have to have courage to be hated"

My idea to Idealness is JUST DOING THE BEST YOU CAN. You have to be proud of what you have been doing. love what you doing.

Do what you with Love, Consequences of your work isn't that you should love but the way you the work that gives consequences.

This is one of high ranking officer said when asked "do you like killing people?"

His Answer

"I don't shoot ppl with love. But I love to do my work and shooting is part of it. I dont think like wow what a shot and be curious about it. I enjoy firing the gun. Someone dropping dead is consequence and I never said love the consequences of your actions. Concentrate on Process and NOT THE RESULT. Let Result be the CONSEQUENCE of your PROCESS"

Destroying the Harmony

2008-06-21T09:31:00.004+05:30

I think about Structuring my thoughts that creates Win- Win situation. It should solve the objectivity of the self existence

This is a era of Mass SELF CONFUSION, where aspect of every Rule that was set in historic era has lost and people follow it blindly for sake of existence of it. There has to exist A balance between Tradition and Growth of Thoughts and liberation. Older generation is lost on path of maintaining society on thoughts which existed on YESTERYEAR Tradition which are totally regardless in today and this era

Today isn't Yesterday as Today is the era of technology which subpars all Taboo of Past
its CALLED ERA OF INFORMATION

While creating Total TRADITIONFREE environment is curse to Wisdom of the OLD
It is a Rebel against its own growth. That would be most stupid thing to do. There are so many things which are required from past. From Buddha, Zen etc. Those things existed because it was needed for some reason. I am not trying to be HIPPY.

Pseudo Nature of compulsive Parents is overriding childhood innocence and creating disrupt in harmony. Let kids be kids or we will be EGO Driven society where most sensical Idea of Winning competition would rather be cutting other Progress rather than SELF PROGRESS. You can't be compulsive about winning at any cost.

Older Generation is compulsive of Growth of Self Profit. It wants to Push their kids on LEVEL of Success that Success itself is Burden on thier own Path They will achieve the mountaintop which kids wont enjoy.They are too busy to enjoy it who taught them that there is sense of Self Appreciation

People don't know how to celebrate thier victory anymore You think if you know it, I doublt it. That isn't taught to you. Best Set advice for celebration is to GULP DOWN MASSIVE SUGAR appliance which fantasizes your taste buds and that is the structure of enjoyment While other decided to Gulp down Alcohol to make them feel Tipsy.

Creation of society that sets out Balance in the nature. Where the weaker ones are to be in Harmony with the stronger one and Stronger Society helping the weaker to grow in ways that Stronger society grows itself.

This is the last thing happening to our social structure. Stronger are working hard enough to take away all the power from the weak and Make themselves stronger.

Harmony has been disrupted and given rise to Criminal society where one part of society feels that other hasn't been respecting them enough and they should also use UNETHICAL MEANS to Gain that back. While other part of society gives out statement that how useless all this is and when will weaker society grow up. They can't progress this way. Both parties can't understand Long term consequences of thier own actions. It disrupts the harmony of existent and in a way that there is no way to fix it.

Every Passing day this gap is increasing and Anger is pulsating in such fragrant YOUTH.

eg.
READ TUPAC LYRICS.. And about his life.
Think about THe Crimes against Humanity which took place just because They felt they weren't treated right and hence they won't allow others to live in peace without sending out the LOUDEST MESSAGE possible.

On Both side of WAR. They will further try to dominate on Violence because remember everyone feels they are doing the right thing and God is on thier side. YEAH RIGHT! If one loses, it considers this was a test of GOD and they are going to come on harder. As Hard as Humanity ceases to exist.

Eg. Israel Vs Palenstine
USA Vs Terrorism
etc.

Validation Seeking Syndrome

2008-06-19T08:16:00.005+05:30

I am not frustrated, I am Validation seeking. Like HEY COMPLIMENT ME FOR MY GREATNESS
so that I can love myself syndrome.

Good part is I am aware of it that this is happening to me when it is happening.Most people don't and can't act upon it. You see human hav tendency to fish for compliments that they want to hear, not other COMPLIMENTS.

If you give them other compliments, it will go unappreciated . On deeper level
they want specific compliments like

hey you looking gr8
your haircut is nice
Nice dress or nice work
you looking pretty today

Same superficial compliments so that they can be happy.
For better understanding on what to do read this

Stop Seeking Validation

Philosophy over Psychology

2008-06-18T19:36:00.003+05:30

Hey,

I have been away for a while and not posting much. I doubt I will have much to post for next month.

Some Cool Advice:

I met this Amazing Girl called NB. We always have discussion about deep topics related to life. I always try to take out the best of what she got. I guess she has read a lot from being of it.

Read this Article:

Egalitarianism

I actually wondered about Tyler question

Do human beings inherently hate themselves?" What are pros and cons of humanity according to you?

NB:
I doubt humans hate themselves.and if they do, their cognitive thought process is awfully negative. Fear is humanity's ultimate destroyer.Through fear we achieve sentiments of greed, hate, envy- etc. and if we can perhaps fix that and focus on 'love'- our world might be in a better place. Naturally, all human beings are perfect. Our judgment tends to say otherwise.

Cody:
Making choices that are befitting of person who treats himself and others as first class human beings. And how do you get a first class ticket on that path??

NB:
Its as simple as that. Choices tend to define who we are as a person in the long run, even if that choice can be considerably wrong to one person. It's about experience- creating it, recognizing it, and knowing there's always more to life than one can imagine.
As to treating others equally- generally, people will treat other however they in turn have been treated and ego is a powerful foe, my friend- many have to battle the lil' bastard out.

Cody:
What part of psychology do you find bullshit? Though I totally agree about nurturing of the child. Way kids grow in Israel and Palestine is total proof of that.

NB:

As much as I don't like to depend on psychology- for most of it is a load of bullshit- I'd have to say, the values these people were taught as a child largely do reflect in adult hood. It's like trying to grow a flower/plant for instance. You're gonna need to dig the soil and make prepare for it to grow but once its has, nature willing, will take care of the rest.
Ofcourse they can be changed. As humans that probably our best ability- to change and to adapt. rianism. Psychology happens to place too much emphasis on human weakness, in terms of the mind. They forget that the mind is a very powerful thing, one if used correctly, can overcome most of these 'disorders' and all that jazz. and you also have the possibility of, as you have said it, behavioral change. people can change and not everyone can be so easily defined in a textbook.

Psychology may prove to be prevalant in some aspects though I do bluntly disregard most of it. Philosophy over psychology, man.

Conversation with NB about Simplicity vs Complexity

2008-05-23T15:04:00.004+05:30

Cody::
Life is suppose to be Simple or Complex? and why?

NB ::
simple, i would think. we just make it complex.

Cody::
so complexity can be advantage or not?

NB::
hmm. an advantage in what sense?

Cody::
As in boring Vs Interesting?

NB::
simplicity is interesting.it may as well be the most beautiful in its form. as long as complexity need not to frustration, i suppose it is equally as gratifying.

Cody::
any particular examples?

NB ::
complexity of the mind, of nature- you know eveything we dub neat and orderly that seem to follow a system.
they are indeed complex, but worth discovering. then again, they can be simplified. its like a fraction of some sort, you can always simplify it for your own advantage. or it could be that the simplest of things are the most complex. you know?

Cody ::
I just find complexity becoming integral part of us.. Like all the social feeding which becomes default response.
U learn 1000s of things

how do u know u r learning the right thing?
The way it works is basically that people have two ways of determining their sense of "reality":

1) First hand experience.
2) The second hand experience of other people.

Because we don't have the time and energy to verify everything about the world for ourselves, our psychology is usually tuned to rely most heavily on 2nd hand information.

NB::
yeah but second hand experience doesn't really suffice to anything.
it's to say if someone else got their tooth pulled out and it hurt, it will ofcourse hurt for you.
when thats not the case.
thats a learned response and its not really an honest one either.
you can't rely on that "feeling" (feelings are usually representative as a language of the soul, almost) when that feeling is nothing but a thought, a negative one at that, masquerading as a feeling.
and you can't necessarily put things in a right or wrong category when everything is open to interpretation and your own perception.

Cody ::
exactly... MOst of your emotions and Ideas are based on such biased opinion of the society and its for you to seek the truth.
Even after enlightenment..all the glorious breakthrough is expanding our mind
but in some way or other yet we are still part of same blueprint, we are still labelling new xp

NB::
well if you can perhaps find a balance of both sides of the argument- you may find some minor sense of truth even if it may be still a tad bit biased.
and we will always be part of the same blueprint- for we all are human.
yet, the defining characteristics of such a blueprint would ofcourse have to be your level of enlightenment, i would think.
you define yourself in a sense.
society holds no authority to do that for you.

Cody ::
So you believe a 2 year kid has equal enlightenment as ZenMaster or whoever u claim to be having highest level of enlightenment

NB::
no, no.
the child is capable of having that level of enlightenment.
and since children are often dubbed "pure"- he may be capable more so.
still, the level of enlightenment one achieves is soley dependent on that person and his/her will power and dedication to do so.

Cody ::
really good replies... Impressive...
So you mean to say...
Child and Zenmaster have something in common. Both don't care about others and thier sole objective is simply to achieve what thier goal is which is again very simple.
how does one know he or she is on right track according to you.. Many times I thought I was on right path.. Then hit dead end.. it was huge burn out.

NB::
"right path" in terms of what?
life, worldly goals, or on the phase of enlightenment?

Cody ::
Don't you think all of them are part of same INTEGRAL PROCESS? As of now , I have read so many books and watched so many programs... that a structure of reality is taking shape.. Lot of things are just like Movie Matrix... I can just look at it and know what is going on... while Other I hav to experiment and somehow mostly result shows up what I thought would initially be.

NB ::
they are.
but they would all have slightly different ways of being handled depending on the person.
for ego can often become a obstacle in the process.
take you for example, the "right path" for all of the things i mentioned would probably be the same, whereas, one who is on some worldly endeavor and thinks merely for themselves would have a different manner of thinking. ego in this sense, would construct the personality and his/her ability to find the "right path"

Cody ::
yeah "Morpheus says to Neo "You have to understand that many people are not ready to be unplugged, and many of them are so inured, so hopelessly dependent on the system that they will fight to protect it.""
Ego Penetrates deeper than I think I can imagine.. I tend to block so much of help just because it is based on ego block.. I don't even realize that I do that... My objective is to be free of OUTCOME DEPENDENCE and enjoy the process of developing a MASTERPIECE.

NB ::
outcome dependence, you say?
in terms of what?

Cody ::
You read story of Zen and riding the motorcycle..? This lil boy and his dad goes up to hill.. on the path.. he keeps asking when we will reach the top... when he reaches the top... He keeps asking when we will get down... Hence, he coudln't enjoy the beauty of nature, surrounding or anything.. He just was BLANK AT THE GOAL.. You have to enjoy whole process and the Pain of achieving the goal

NB ::
thats true.
its the same with everyday things.people overlook everything and are hardly ever grateful.
so when a situation arises when they are ripped away from something they had, but paid no attention to- they regret it.
people just need to live, and let live.and everything will fall into place.it's that simple.

Cody ::
Yeah conception as being good manager vs MICROMANAGER... Its like having balance in that too...SOme totally get lost in beauty and forget thier goal... while other are bulleye shooter... and dont enjoy anything they do... But Outcome Independence sounds interesting journey to me.

NB ::
true that.

Cody::
Bye

NEEDY QUENCH - Path sensitization part 1

2008-05-11T07:58:00.004+05:30

This has been epic battle of my mind which focuses on so many random aspects. Ever since hearing TIM, I understood that there exist hole inside my system which creates Spiral energy loss. Sometimes it takes shape of SUPER NEGATIVE ball inside me which allows DESTRUCTIVE thoughts

EPIC SHOW # 1

Need to maintain every aspect of every interaction or management in thier hand.

One of the best policy of ALEXANDER the great and Napoleon was that they divided thier forces in many group having seperate commander who could function on thier own. There is no other way they could do so much in such a short period span.

Every person feels that they could be thier own best manager. Well as far as I know, most of the time this proves to be fatal mistake. We try to produce results way we want but we end up creating exact opposite of the same because OUR X FACTOR depends on UNKNOWN person. Only few have perception and time to think in all rounded fashion.

Best way to move forward with any interaction is LET IT FLOW. If you want to row the boat, you don't need to direct the whole river, all you need to do is put ROWS in the right direction and your boat will move in the direction you want.

EPIC SHOW # 2

Trying to use EMOTIONAL TRAPS to get the things way we want.

I know as a kid it was fine when you started crying for candy. Doesn't matter who but someone will end up buying you a candy. This is your best shot at negotiations. You know how to use tantrums, power trips, crying etc to your advantage.

Guess what? If you are reading this, I consider you to be mature enough that all the above aren't your finest trick in the trade.

EPIC SHOW #3

Trying to get at someone because THEY ATTACKED your EGO.

This one is great minus , and I know for some part it is still inside me. I am working hard to get rid of it. There are certain factors that influence this habit

1. Trying to prove that you are RIGHT -->

Getting acceptance from other that you are smart or you feel uneasy.

2. Someone said something about you and you want to get back to them.

One happenned few days ago when I was creeped out by My old classmate.

I just randomly asked him whats going on his life. If he had crush on some girl or something.
Him: Yeah! there is one girl who I like but she is with someone else.
But it's good because she is a bitch anyways

Me: She isn't bitch, she is bitch to you.

Him: No she is a bitch........

ME: Man, you need to have healthy mindset if you want women in your life.

He took offense and started dissing me. I was like GEEZZ.... shit happens!

Epic show # 4

Forgetting the positive and focusing on negative.

When you done good job, Everyone is giving you a compliment but one guy starts making joke out of it. You try your best to defend yourself and in a way start getting aggressive about him later on.

Or ever seen some people who feed on negativity. Say something negative and they will make thier life out of it. They always have negative comment about everything. They will feel deep connection with you when you have 10,000 negative things to say or They get in fight with you that thier life is worst life and there could be nothing worse than that.

TO BE CONTINUED...

Postive Ego Vs Negative Ego

2008-04-21T03:50:00.002+05:30

I keep listening to this phrase all my life. EGO IS BAD (Narcism in psychology).

It is based on nothing concrete and yet it may seriously impacts your results on your particular criterion. Interesting!

Now from long set of books I have read and from personal experience I can easily conclude that THERE IS NOTHING BAD OR GOOD. It is the CONTEXT that defines ANY VALUE or STRUCTURE for our basic understanding.

I keep reading quote from CIARAN of RSD - "THERE IS NO DIVISION IN THE REALITY"

It is your set of belief that will define the way anything such as ego, materialism, zen etc. influences your life. Those are just out there for us to use in the way we like. True, Larger pool of people end up using it for DEMOTIVATION and SELF DEGRADATION.

Now,

Negative EGO -> Set of belief that produces negative results in any particular criterion or produces contradiction in self reality.
i.e We produce behavior that are not productive and ends up "Cutting branch that you are sitting on"

ANALOGY:

We have installed in our mind like a corrupted file in a software. It doesn't give you a fatal error way the computer gives you but it keeps on giving you those Error box to Repair complain or Ignore. Most of the people choose easy and lazy path, that is hit Ignore BUTTON and system stays infected for duration.

Don't blame your software for popping more errors every passing day because technically its your fault that you aren't taking any action

Now many of us are not so savvy that we have solution to the error. Even when program isn't working in the expected manner, we try to work around the situation without even knowing the typer of error. While others can't even recognize that there is error in the first place, forget about debugging it.

FAMOUS LINES SHOWING THE TRAIT

"This is the way I am,"
"There is nothing I can do about this"
"You think I have a problem, First look at yourself. .... "
"I am cool, I guess you are the one with the problem"
"You are getting it all wrong"
"This can't be done, its impossible"
"Accept me way I am or it is your loss" -> Esp. When there is lot of self HATE.

or

ACTIONS SHOWING THE TRAIT

Giving advice that other person doesn't need or doesn't want and getting mad about that other person isn't implementing your advice
Thinking you are too good for a system
Thinking everything is fine when they have extreme or compulsive tendency
Not accepting women lower than thier liking and yet not being able to do anything about women they like. Its NO ZONE.

Positive EGO -> Set of belief that gravitate towards the self elected Goal and doing everything that makes achieving the goal very obvious.

Watch movie THE SECRET right away or collect the book by Rhonda Byrne.
Or check out Optimal Thinking
and thier book Optimal thinking by Rosalene Glickman.

What I actually do is create an avatar for the self that has the success as core belief. I am the great CODYHULK, this should be like piece of cake. Failure and Cody.. NOPE. I put myself on such a delusional level and all I have to do is get further experience that will help me enhance my goal.

I create level of confidence with in me that it is really obvious for me to win. Think of it like Video game you played 2000 times. You have been winning for ages. If you lose one game, You know you can come back and come back big. This eg. may sound small and ridiculous but what I am talking about is on the same level too.

Eg.

I was playing Playstation NBA 07. I always end up winning but there was nothing I could do when I paired LA Lakers Vs New Orlean Hornets. I would work hard to get basket in painted areas as thier shooting isn't that good and Kobe Bryant isn't so efficient in the game for some reason. While New Orleans kept scoring 3 pointers or Open shots and made it most of the time.

Guess what I was doing wrong. I was acting frustrated and would only play 2 players Kobe Bryant and Lamar Odom while others would just rotate the ball but not attempt the shot because they would just end up getting blocked or missing very simple shots which in end would create larger gaps to recover. I was hitting buttons hard and frustrated.

Next day I chose to have my cool. Guess what I could see whole new level of things happening like I could put Phil Jackson triangle offence in the action. It ended up me winning the game by Large difference. Now that happens consistently.

It is very minor example in my life. But just see the effect of positive belief even on MINOR scale. I am THE CHAMP of this game. How can I lose. Just listen to Steve Nash in this video. He is dropping NUGGETS OF GOLD in real life.

My simple outline would be:

1, Act as if you've already achieved your goal
2. Detach yourself from the outcome
3. Be in the moment
4. Don't worry about what women think of you
5. Don't sweat the process

Disambiguation of Complexity

2008-04-18T18:24:00.005+05:30

All my life I thought women were complex. It may be right statement but not like level I thought it was.

I found out that I am way more complex than her. She is just responding to my VALUES.

Why do girls make it so hard to get them?

I should thank them to do the same. I found some chicks who were aggressive in first go... TOO WHORRY even if they were damn hot. It was instant TURN OFF.

They put on shit test so that I have to work through it. If I am not capable to work through it, I am not worth her time even. She knows I am not one of those great guy in who will provide any Value to her. I am Socially Illiterate.

If I work par that shit test wall. Well now I have invested some effort in her and she knows I won't JUDGE her but instead be happy about MY LUCK.

All the objection that may rise answers my objection for her too. There is no point of double standards. If I have double standards , again I am not so COOL GUY she thought I was. Totally bazzard situation.

Egalitarianism is one of the finest philosophy I ever got to read. It is one of the best way to demonstrate the high value and cool guy you are. Totally par with the self.

Now, How does this help me to pick up women.

Read Tyler's article Secret Society.

You just have to show to women that you are not going to JUDGE her or have other thoughts for her if she lets her inner self shine. Give her chance to bring out her awesomeness. Lovely soul is weathered to register happiness in you.

As My buddy Sanj said, "Show her that there exist backdoor and you have the key to it."

She can escape the damned reality without anybody knowing it. Thats all!

Rescuing Sleeping beauty

2008-04-03T20:47:00.003+05:30

Thanks to Manwhore for this Plotline

You're like.. sleeping beauty. I'll be Prince Charming.
-If I.. find the time I’ll come rescue you.
-I'd beat that dragon's ass easy.
-I’d make it up to the top of the castle where you were sleeping.. and there you’d lay- with bedhead. Grab her around the shoulders in a kind of hug and throw/tilt her head/shoulders slightly back- like Gone with the Wind. Simulates sleeping beauty- also an extremely powerful roleplay for a girl- simulating her under your man spell. Even if she doesn't want to lean back- you can still act like she did

MY FR:

Normal text is my side of convo, Italics is Girl's side of Convo!

Cody: Yeah.. I will come to the top and there u will be sleeping like GOOD girl.. I will Put on Your favorite smelll.. WHich one is it?

DavidOFF Water.

Alright

HELLO u were sleeping..

So doing that will earn your brownie points with me?

Doing what?

Saving me from Dragon?

No baby , DavidOFF will

So I put it on to wake you up instead of throwing water on you which you actually deserve..

YOu are getting all hyper..and try to jump on me.. But girl this is castle Remember...

I am standing on edge of window... and taking fresh air.. You come running up to me.. and try to jump on me..

Ofcourse now Look at You.. I am scared for my life.. You jump and I move aside..

I hear loud Splash.. Castle on edge of River..

and when I look down.. I giggle... GEEZZ>..

You havn't taken shower for days.. you were busy sleeping..

I will start cursing at you

NOpe, NOw I will sing Glory of LOVe to you..from Karate KId..

Insecurity is your greatest enemy

2008-03-29T05:44:00.005+05:30

Hey,
I just met up with my old female friend and we have been knowing each other for over 10 years. We had good conversation and then I decide we should catch up after a while.

Me: Give me your number.

Her: sry cant give my number...My bf wont like it....

Me: LOL! Alright. I thought he was friendly with me. Anyways whats happening?

Her: haha...nothing like that ..he just doesn't like me talking to other guys...nothing personal

Me: LOL! This sounds funny anyways. Pretty Insecure bf I guess. Maybe I will meet up at our X place.

Her : thts cool!hey yeah i know...but its like he doesnt want my reputation appearing as slutty...thts all...otherwise he hardly cares...hey yeah...we'll meet up

Me: COOL! I just don't promote Iraq or Afghanistan culture.. Hows the party going on? Do you go out or just stay at home and read good amount of textbooks?

Her: lol!niether do i!everything is good...lol...do u thnk i wud read at all??!!

Hey guys what do you think is happening? Is this kind of relationship going to last?

Right now I just feel girl is qualifying to me because she feels attracted to her boyfriend but even she has some doubt in her mind. Her mind just made a blind spot for her to feel she chose the right guy. Yeah! I know women emotions are strong enforcers of blind spots. But seriously, How long do you think such blind spots are going to last?

Creepy I KNOW! LOL!

This is pure essence of self dstruction.

You have to let your woman fly freely. You have to be secure enough to let her talk to other people. Don't get pissed if some other guy admires your girlfriend. You have to have enough integrity and trust that you trust your girlfriend coming back to you at end of the day.

If you have strong identity, Outer world doesn't matter. It essence of you that will make you outshine the generic world. Let your integrity be admired.

Epiphanies during march sarge

2008-03-26T14:56:00.004+05:30

This is what I used to think:

1. Sets have to be really be long.

Well, I think when I was out sarging out, I always thoughts all sets
have to run really long. But I realize I didn't have as much impact in
20 mins what Harsh had in 5 mins. So when I am out for closing I would
rather keep my sets short if logistics aren't permitting to close
right away.

Close as soon as you can.

2. Know the right thing, do the right thing

Gulp! I AM FUCKING GENIUS. I know a lot more than generic people. I
got facts after facts which are interesting, controversial and
registering.

DUh! Sultan said I am being too logical. I don't have to say 10
interesting facts to be with her. She is yours to take if you play
with her like little kid. People don't want smartass to tag around.
They want fun people who they can play with like 2 years old. No point
of being overtly mature.

Screw social conditioning

3. Excuses

a. Girl on the phone

I can't beat myself enough. I like this thinking. if girl is on the
phone for more than 2 mins. She is mostly bored out of her mind. Just
go in AND tap her and sweep her world.

Incident 1:

I was out with my folks in lokhandwala. This girl is on
the phone. I open her it goes really well and we exchange name and
stuff. She kept person on the phone waiting for 1 whole minute. If I
had continued she would hav shut the phone off.

She said she is busy and even then I could have asked her number.
Damn!
I dont have it default in me to accept that I can have 1 minute solid
close. Unbelievable!

Incident 2:

I still regret not getting this hb10 number when I was out with
Mehigher. She was damn hot and I thought she was on the phone. SHIT!
this girl opened so well. And she got on the phone. I knew I was
suppose to escalate.

DE CHODIFY ME FOR GOD AMUSEMENT

I hate rationalizations like this

Incident 3:
This girl was on her phone for long time doing something. I thought
she was buy.
Dear fucking lord she was playing stupid game cos she was bored. It
couldn't have been better opportunity to make her day. Ofcourse she
gave me her email right away.

Next time whoever is with me is allowed to kick my ass if I am choding
about.

b. Girl is UG

Guys GUys Guys check this out...

I have really awesome ugs who are fashion designers. Guess what who
they are friends with. BIngo!
You dont have to f close every girl you meet. You can be friends with
some.

You are the party. And in party there will be few UGs. It is upto you
how to make them happening and use them to your advantage.

Always be flirting. Those are newbies practice kit. Even if you lose
them you won 't be outcome dependent.

c. Guys, There is mom in the set

lol! anyone who has been out with me during this periods can laugh
like nuts. We all know what happened in Lokhandwala

CODY FOR SPARTAAAAAA!!!!!!!!

LOL SOME MOMS ARE REALLY HOT DONT YOU THINK. ROFL!

for those who have no clue what is happening, Guys just open the set and some moms do help you out for the thing. If some parents can tell thier kid to exhange number with me so I can be a good influence on them. You guys are smart enough to know how to use this stratergy to your advantage.

d. Dude, there is guy in the set.

This is one of the most genuine excuse I have got. If you want I
shouldn't approach the set, Tell me those magical words and I lose my
attraction right of the bait.

But I know this is my weakness. Look at Sultan. Did he give a damn
when he was in the set. Ans is no.. I am going to try opening more mixed sets.

e. Damn! I am not like XYZ. If I would be like him I would have done
this! I need to take bootcamp to pull that stunt.

What does that mean? I found it funny when I heard it.

Dude, Ex GURU is on next level. We shouldn't do this on our own.He has
been doing this for so many years.

Right! Can anyone tell me how your favorite reached where he is? Ask your Guru if
he thinks the same way. What is his advice about it. You can do it right away. You don't need too many years to get there.

4. ALWAYS BE CLOSING

Most of think how we will get the set going. But the most pros I have
seen , they think how I will close this set. They already assumed
chick is thiers.

5. Player is what You are, Not what you do!

We are planning what to say and those guys just activates chick RAS
and talk like they have been together forever. They are destined to be
together. Anyone who has seen harsh open knows how he treats like he
knows the girl forever and they are becoming a couple. Mental and
Physical distance doesn't exist. They are just lovers together. Its
thier small bubble and girls really forget everything about like they
just met.

Numbers?? Lol.. I saw Sultan k-close this girl in middle of street in
fucking 5 mins. Numbers is like child match which flys left and
right.

We feel approach anxiety cos we have to game the girls. We have to put
up persona so that it will give us additional confidence and then we
appoach in hindsight that we have to prove to ourselves that we have
it with in us.

We act too gamey. This is the biggest thing I see with most of the
guys.

Anyone who has seen transformations from RSD knows what I am talking
about. if you havn't seen it. Dude, Leave all other shit. Watch TIM
section and you will have enlightenment. Watch Rosetta stone of pick
up.

TR NR BR.

6. Hey, Cody I opened this girl at 30 degree with Shoulder on back. I
delivered "WHO LIES MORE" opener at pitch 2.39 with volume 5 bass
2.2823 and I delivered this Routine...

WHHHHHHHHHHHHATTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT???????

I am speechless!

OR

Cody, You should go in front of her and then open her ........ xyz

Are YOU KIDDING ME???

Obsession vs Chilling out

2008-03-26T13:58:00.003+05:30

There was question raised by Tyler

I remember scene from fight club.

This guy wants to get rid of Fight club from his basement and he shows
up with super heavy bodygaurd. Tyler starts beating himself and his
best weapon THE VIOLENCE is dead as pawn in chess game.

Yeah, After reading Chuck Palahniuk I have started realizing that
sometimes Self Destruction is the key to Self Enlightenment.

All the best guys say the same thing: "Don't become obsessed like I
did." And yet, all the best guys were at one point obsessed. Was it
that becoming UNCONSCIOUSLY competent was their final step in
development, or could it be that their obsession was unnecessary and
that with better guidance they could have achieved the same thing from
the get-go?

It takes work and time to climb the ranks. No one ever got to be a
CEO by showing up for work 40 hours a work. Some more "elite"
professions like ibankers, consultants, and lawyers are putting in a
good 60-90 hours a week from the very first year. On the other end of
the spectrum, Sachin Tendulkar and other sports legends didn't set
their records just by going to practice for couple hours two days a
week either. They sacrificed other things in their lives to get what
they wanted by giving up the time they could have been spending on
those other things.

All the world's great military leaders, like Alexander the Great,
Genghis Khan, Julius Caesar, Napoleon, had dreams of unrealistic
proportions in the eyes of those around them. They were qualifyied as
fanatical. And yet their names remain for thousands of years. Their
deeds remain. the mindset they had was to change something in radical,
"obsessive" ways, and to create transformation around them. Self-
improvement, in the sense of inward development, is basically the same
thing. If there is out there in the world the possibility of extreme
pleasures, extreme achievement, and extreme satisfaction and glory,
than I truly could not ever settle for anything less. Some of us are
born to do great things, some of us are "made" like that, depending on
how philosophical we want to get.

The fact remains that all the men who have achieved something great,
who have accomplished profound and radical transformations around
them, had been to some extent obsessed with their dream, and
everything else in their life was given less importance. Not everyone
can live like this. It is a matter of personal choice

"Practice doesn't make perfect. Perfect practice makes perfect" - Vince Lombardi

Movie :Adaptation

2008-03-18T07:06:00.002+05:30

It’s been a while since I have shared any of my learning in here. I was watching the movie called

“Adaptation”

starring Nicholas Cage. Movie has taught me so many lessons about nature and self while it has re confined few possible belief.

In the movie there were twin brothers called Charlie Kaufman and Donald Kaufman were just genius by the blood. They looked the same and behaved the same. But there was one major difference, the way they saw the world. Donald still could get women while Charlie was scared to get any. In movie maybe Charlie was smarter but Donald had a strong presence and sense of direction. It simply means, your physical look doesn’t really matter when it comes to being good with women but the character which you are. World doesn’t have any form but it’s your mind which gives it a shape of something. You can majorly categorize it as positive or negative.

The screenplay is based on a true story. Charlie Kaufman was writing screen play for a book called The Orchid Thief. However, he soon realized that the book simply couldn't be filmed. As he came under increasing pressure to turn in a screenplay, the "adaptation" became a story of a screenwriter's attempt to write a screenplay about a book that can't be adapted into a screenplay. Kaufman handed the script to his employers in the firm belief he would never work again.

John Laroche wanted to be a leader in many different and obscure fields. Whenever he accomplished this, however, he would abandon his hobby for a completely new one. He would never get his life get boring and allow anyone to make opinion on it. He would just keep stepping out of his comfort zone and formed and interesting character with many stories. He understood that life needs goals to have pleasure and he kept setting up new goals to keep himself young and creative. He had enough intention to attract any women around him.

We feel our objective in life is to have peace and life without enemy or struggle. We don’t see the major problem in thinking that way. When human mind enjoys nothing but comfort, it loses its creativity and peace and starts acting bored and irritated. Human requires struggle to live happily and enjoy life.

Women seek thrill in their life, a person who gives her a feelings which she can’t enjoy by herself. She will resist the adventure for a while but after some time she will get so adapted to it that she will go beyond your imagination to achieve the ride of her life. In this movie, Susan the writer of the orchid thief was a lady who was having stable life with a great job, rich husband, and over all a beautiful life as called standard. It was dream life for few people around the planet. She wasn’t happy with the stability. She went out with other crazy looking guy and did things which on her normal day she would forbid herself to do so.

Susan did drugs, porn, affair and even murder to have a thrill which was just beyond imagination of her own mind. She just strive her new life which was way below her personal standards. She felt guilty and bad about what she was doing but that didn’t stop her from achieving what she wanted to achieve; a PLEASURE. She used to feel sad and lost in her general form while happy in low being form. She wrote in her book

“There are too many ideas and things and people. Too many directions to go. I was starting to think that the reason it matters to care so passionately about something is that it whittles the world down to a more manageable size”

She was writing a book on orchid which she had no interest on. She just cared about emotions she felt with the John. As you read you may feel she was a negative character and would logically was being selfish but just everyone on the planet is selfish. She did what she strived for. if you want to stay young you have to do new things. She wrote “

I want to be a baby again. I want to be new. I want to be new."

Nature has its own beauty and we form wonderful relationship with it.

In movie they said

“Point is, what's so wonderful is that every one of these flowers has a specific relationship with the insect that pollinates it. There's a certain orchid that looks exactly like a certain insect so the insect is drawn to this flower, its double, its soul mate, and wants nothing more than to make love to it. And after the insect flies off, spots another soul-mate flower and makes love to it, thus pollinating it. And neither the flower nor the insect will ever understand the significance of their lovemaking. I mean, how could they know that because of their little dance the world lives? But it does. By simply doing what they're designed to do, something large and magnificent happens. In this sense they show us how to live - how the only barometer you have is your heart. How, when you spot your flower, you can't let anything get in your way”

Men are like insects while female are like flowers. Women stay stationary to her MAN while men have habit to go around other women suck its nectar. Men enjoy having many women in their life while flowers prefer to be stationary and being enjoyed. Attraction isn’t a choice. Flowers and Insect both wouldn’t understand why they get so bonded to each other but they know nothing but to make the love to each other. They are designed to be in that way. Same goes with human; we don’t understand what is making us attracted to opposite sex. Why are women beautiful and not men? Why do female get attracted to a Masculine identity. Yet they do what they have been designed to do so.

One line by Donald really spooked me and that is

“You are what you love, not what loves you.”

You have right to choose what you want to love and not be ashamed by it. It is about having strong boundaries to enjoy what you love and not care about what other think. If you love a girl but she doesn’t love you. It really doesn’t matter that she doesn’t like you. You have right to have your feelings. But you don’t have to supplicate to her words and be her ass. It isn’t about being sorry for what you like but you can hold your grounds and still admire the girl.

Charlie said

“The only idea more overused than serial killers is multiple personality. On top of that, you explore the notion that cop and criminal are really two aspects of the same person. See every cop movie ever made for other examples of this.”

Every person has some good side and bad side. It just exists in you at the core. Every person you see on the planet is polar nature and can be considered negative or positive. Criminals see cops as negative spotlight and vice versa with Cops.
Nature is very silent and sync with itself. It doesn’t take revenge from you the moment you harm it, but it takes revenge from you in a way that you feel nothing but mortal to destruction it can produce. River is safe and wonderful up till when you start to contaminate it, it starts spreading diseases which you have no control over. It shows that don’t fight when you can’t fight but when you fight, do not leave your enemy a chance to rise and destroy you again.

Woman talking about how to deal with other woman

2008-03-01T16:09:00.001+05:30

Below is a craigslist ad written by a woman (thanks for posting this
on Forum, Manwhore):

Dear Men of Craigslist,

Look, I know you men have it difficult. Women are just about
impossible to understand, much less please. In a post-feminist
society, you never know exactly what you should be doing. Women are
bloody picky, I know we are. It can be scary, too, when women freak
out about what appear to be benign issues. And men who do their best
to be respectful, female-positive humans, I salute you, I do.

But please, please just fuck me already. Honestly, I appreciate your
thoughtfulness. I like that you want to take things slow. I can
totally get behind the idea of emotional connection, but
dearjesusinheaven, FUCK ME. We've done dinner and drinks. We've gone
dancing. We've cuddled and watched a movie. I'm wearing a low cut
shirt and you've been staring at my breasts all night.
Goodgodalmighty, get to it and fuck me.

When we get hot and heavy, please take charge. Please, please fuck me.
Trust me, I'm not going to just lie still - I'll get involved. But
don't make me force your hand into my panties. That makes me feel like
a rapist. We've been kissing for a half hour and your hand keeps
grazing my ass. That's nice, but it's time to move forward. Get on top
of me. Don't make me get on top right out of the gate and start
bobbing up and down on your cock like I'm practicing some crazy new
aerobic yoga because YOU won't go down on me. Roll on top and start
dry humping like a good boy should. Don't gently suck my nipples and
then pull back when I moan with pleasure. You being coy is totally not
what I want. It's not what WE want.

OK, I know it's scary. There are lots of women out there who make
fucking really difficult. So, I have compiled some handy tips. Don't
think of this as complaining, or as schadenfreude for the Andrea
Dworkins of the world. Just some simple tips, for timid men who have
forgotten what it means to fuck like men:

1. Taking charge is not bad. Oh, there will be some women who feel
that you are pushy. If you are making out with a woman, and she starts
to push back, ask nicely if things are moving too fast. If she says
yes, say something like "I'm sorry - you just look so fucking
delicious. I'll go slower." Otherwise, skillfully move forward. If you
start kissing a woman, and she responds well, and before long, you're
both on the floor with her skirt pushed up, and you on top of her,
it's not the time to roll onto your back and start awkwardly stroking
the top of her head. Seriously, grow a goddamn pair. YOU'RE the man.
Act like one.

2. Ohmyfuckinggod, please learn to respect the clit. It's different
for every woman, so ask what she likes. Do not, I repeat, do not just
wiggle your fingers around her pussy like you're trying to tickle her.
Do not drum your fingertips against her vulva like you are impatiently
waiting at the Sears Tire Center for your receipt. Do not push the
clit like it is a doorbell at some house that you need to get inside
of. Start by using all four fingers with firm yet gentle pressure
against the outside of her pussy. Do not charge in with a single
finger and start jabbing at things. And if you really don't know what
to do, ask her. Just ask. "How do you like it?". It's a simple
question, and most women will answer straight out. If she's being all
coy, ask "Do you like pressure? Is it sensitive?" The clitoris is a
varied item, indeed. Treat each one as though you have never
encountered one before. Forget everything that your last partner liked.

3. Most women like to be fucked, and fucked well. Yes, there are women
out there who want to "make love" every time - sweet, gentle, rocking
love with lots of eye contact and loving kisses. Those women are not
the majority. The majority like to be pounded. The majority like to
have their hair pulled. The majority like a good, solid jackhammering.
When a woman is bucking wildly against you, it's not because she wants
you to pull back and slowly swirl your cock around her vagina like
you're mixing a cake batter up there. It's because she wants you to
hold down her arms, or grab her hips, or push her legs above her head,
and fuck her harder. Don't be too afraid of what this means as far as
gender equality goes - I am a raging feminist bitch, but I still want
to be penetrated like you are planning on fucking my throat from the
inside out.

4. A little roughness is nice. Do not pretend that you had no idea
that some women like their hair pulled. Do not act shocked if she
wants you to spank her ("Really? Spanking? Won't it hurt?" - yes, it
does. That's the fucking point). We know you've read Stuff and Maxim,
and that's all those laddie mags talk about in their "How to Please
Her" sections. Start with light, full handed smacks to the area of her
ass that she sits on. Judge her response and continue on from there.
You don't have to bend her over one knee and tell her she's a naughty
girl and that Daddy's going to punish her; save that for the fifth
date. Women are less delicate than you think, so don't worry about
breaking her hip.

5. It's OK for you to make noise. Otherwise, we feel like we are
fucking a ninja. Unless you actually are a ninja, and have sneaked
into our rooms with vibrating nanuchaku and zippered black pajamas,
please, please make some noise. If you're banging a woman, and she's
crying out and saying your name and moaning, and you can't even manage
a grunt, she's going to feel like an idiot. You don't have to make the
sounds she is making, but do SOMETHING. You know how when you are
watching porn, and the girl does something great to the guy and the
guy kind of goes "Ah!", half grunt, half yell? That's HOT. Do that.
Whisper our name (assuming you know it) gruffly. Groan against her
neck when you're in missionary position. You don't have to grunt like
a mountain gorilla, but if you are totally mute, she's going to get
worried.

6. Most women like dirty talk, in addition to the grunting. If you'd
like to get some dirty talk going, ask her if she likes the way you
fuck her. If she responds well, continue with something like, "I love
fucking you. God, you look so fucking hot." Is she still moaning in
response? "Your tits are so beautiful." Does that work? If she doesn't
respond well to the term "tits", you might have to stop there. If she
keep moaning or responding, pass Go and collect $200. Try the following:

"Oh, god. Your pussy is SO tight."
"You're so wet - are you wet because you like the feel of my cock
ramming you?"
"I think I'm going to come inside you. I'm going to fill up your
little cunt." It doesn't matter that you're wearing a condom; we LOVE
hearing this.

If all of those work, you can then progress to things like "sexy
little bitch" and "dirty whore". Tread carefully, but please, tread.
Do not tiptoe. Do not sit down. Charge.

6. You're not obligated to eat a woman out. In return, she's not
obligated to choke on your dick. Don't skip one and expect the other.
If you do eat a woman out, the only comment you should make about her
pussy is how nice it is. The length of her labia minora, the color of
her interior, her waxing job or full bush - you are not John Madden.
No time for color commentary.

7. Do not bitch about condoms. Oh, we hate them. Trust us. They hurt
us more than they hurt you. But we don't want to be preggers, and you
don't want to catch anything, right? Don't whine about condom sex. Do
not explain that you can't come with one on. LEARN to come with one
on, or if not, help us figure out what to do with you once we're
satisfied and it's time for you to let loose your load.

8. We really like it when you come. It's called a money shot for a
reason. Watching semen shoot out of you is one of the most gratifying
things EVER. However, do not assume that she wants you to jack it off
onto her face. She might, but don't assume. Seeing and/or feeling you
come is rewarding for us, so there's no need to deprive us of it, but
please do consult us before unleashing. "I think I'm going to come -
how do you like it?" is a fair question that shouldn't rob you of your
testicles.

In recent memory, I've been fucked by a very aggressive, manly guy,
and I've been... well, fucked is the wrong term here. I've been
penetrated by a total and utter wuss. Who am I going to run back to
when I'm ready for my fill? Manly McHardon, that's who.
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*New point of clarification - some people have brought up some really
great issues in response to this post, so let me say this: I don't
mean to imply that all women like to be treated like whores. I do mean
to say that most women I know have told me that they like sex rougher
than most men give it to them. Rough does NOT equal chains and
bondage. And this applies to the bedroom only, and does not mean that
she wants you to choose her dinner for her, or treat her like less of
a person.

**Some women have said that they don't like it rough and what the hell
am I thinking? Well, girls, you're in the minority. HOWEVER, all women
need to remember that, in addition to be straight forward about your
sexual desires, you need to be straight forward about your sexual
limits. Don't be afraid to ask for more, but when something feels
wrong, say so. Don't ever do something you don't want to do in silence
and then blame the guy. Silence is dangerous.

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